How to Let Go: Learning to Deal with Loss

Toxic relationships are those where the partners are emotionally dependent on each other, and need drama to survive, unable to accept real love, respect and care. Like the ‘bad boy’ syndrome, toxic people continuously need unloving people to love them.

Healthy relationships are when the partners love and respect one another, and are interdependent emotionally. These people are complete within themselves and are standing like mountains, blissfully ready to be loved and respected.

1. Life without your relationship, no matter how insecure and miserable it is, seems impossible. This can also apply to workplaces, political groups or family members.
2. The relationship is harming other relationships in your life and is dominating your entire day and night.
3. Your loving, caring and giving is only reciprocated with anger and hurt.

1. Old memories of us being amazing in the past, having awesome lives is actually not entirely true, as humans have a tendency to remember the good stuff only. 
2. Our brain has always been on a hedonic treadmill, falsely believing the next goal will make us happy. The present moment is where happiness resides.
3. Surround yourself with people who love, respect and appreciate you.
4. When faced with drama or toxic relationships, understand that this is inevitable and can be used to pluck out other similar relationships.

• The way we treat our body, mind and emotions is crucial to our relationships, as our first prerogative is to invest in, improve and take care of ourselves.
• One should live completely, with or without a relationship, and not live simply to please others. An obligatory or transactional relationship is on a shaky foundation.
• It’s okay to be single for a while and learn to spend time with oneself.