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Why It's So Hard to Stick to Your Goals

https://www.scotthyoung.com/blog/2019/01/07/mih-action-intention-gap/

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Why It's So Hard to Stick to Your Goals
What is the biggest source of failed goals, dreams and ambitions? Is it luck? That you just didn't have the right cards, and so there was nothing you could have done? Is it talent or method? If you were just smarter and used the right technique, you could have made it work?

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The action-intention gap

The difference between a great idea and great execution. This is where most of our struggles, failures and frustrations originate.

The majority of our struggles in life come down to a simple problem: our actions don’t match our intentions.

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How to Close Your Action-Intention Gap

  1. If you want to have a chance of improving your life, you need to clear about what you intend to do.
  2. Align your intentions with the kind of things you can actually do. 
  3. See how your intentions are working out,  how well you’re following through and make adjustments.

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The format for creating an implementation intention is: “When situation X arises, I will perform response Y.”

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Follow Through With Your Goals

If you make a specific plan for when and where you will perform a new habit, you have bigger chances to follow through.

You don't need motivation, you need clarity. Simply follow your predetermined plan: I will [BEHAVIOR] at [TIME] in [LOCATION].

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The Rudders and Oars Metaphor

It helps clarify the difference between SYSTEMS and GOALS:
  • Your goals are like the rudder on a small rowboat. They set the direction and determine where you go. 
  • If you commit to one goal, then the rudder stays put and you continue moving forward. 
  • If you flip-flop between goals, then the rudder moves all around and it is easy to find yourself rowing in circles.
  • If the rudder is your goal, then the oars are your process for achieving it. While the rudder determines your direction, it is the oars that determine your progress.

Example: If you’re a writer, your goal is to write a book. Your system is the writing schedule that you follow each week.

How to Set Goals You'll Actually Follow

  1. Ruthlessly Eliminate Your Goals. Consistently prune and trim down your goals. If you can muster the courage to prune away a few of your goals, then you create the space you need for the remaining goals to fully blossom.
  2. Stack Your Goals. Make a specific plan for when, where and how you will perform this."Networking: After I return from my lunch break, I will send one email to someone I want to meet."
  3. Set an Upper Bound. Don't focus on the minimum threshold. Instead of saying,  “I want to make at least 10 sales calls today.” rather say, “I want to make at least 10 sales calls today, but not more than 20.”