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How to cultivate a sense of unconditional self-worth

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How to cultivate a sense of unconditional self-worth
It's a life-long practice and it's not always easy to do -- but it's absolutely worth the effort, says psychologist Adia Gooden. She shares four things you can do to start to embrace yourself, quirks and all.

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Self Esteem Vs Self-Worth

Self Esteem Vs Self-Worth

Many of us have our growing up years filled with experiences that destroy our self-worth. Slowly we establish in our minds that we are not good enough.

Self-worth is different from self-esteem which can be bolstered by improving our skill sets, social positions, and our performance. Self-worth is a basic sense of being deserving to be loved and cared for and to be alive in this world.

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Society Primes Us To Feel Unworthy

  • Ads on TV tell us what we need to spend money on to become acceptable, successful or lovable.
  • Our educational system measures us using standard grades and test-scores, destroying our individuality.
  • Parents love our accomplishments and subtly want us to push ourselves towards greater success at the cost of our freedom of personal choice.
  • Social media has highly effective metrics to measure our worthiness, like the number of followers or likes.

When we fail to do what society wants us to do, we lose approval and experience unworthiness.

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Imagine A Beautiful World

Begin to feel worthy by:

  1. Forgiving yourself for your past mistakes, acknowledging and accepting our flaws and deeds.
  2. Accept how you look, your laugh, your smile, your unique way of looking at the world. That’s what makes you special.
  3. Embrace your quirks and work towards enhancing your worldview.
  4. Do not criticise yourself when you experience emotional pain. Be kind to yourself.
  5. Connect with people who are supportive and healing.
  6. Have the courage to free yourself from society's rules and work towards being you.

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