6 Lessons on Happiness I Learned By Going Through My Darkest Times

• You can give someone the tools to heal, but all that does is start the healing.
• The process of healing will take time, regardless of how much you try to rush it.
• But in that is a bit of hope, too; the assurance in knowing something as simple as time can drastically change the course of your life.

• Focusing on how far you have to go can feel disheartening.
• But if you can commit to taking tiny steps forward, one day you’ll look back and see how far you’ve come.

• I need to check-in with myself to make sure I’m not slipping back into my disordered eating way.
• I have to monitor whether I’m feeling like myself and, if not, I need to be the one to do something about it.
• If I wait around for someone else to notice, it’ll be too late.
• I’ll be back at square one. But that’s OK.
• I’m always going to be the person who can take care of and prioritize my needs best.

• The pursuit of happiness is a fallacy. You can be happy right now, at this moment.
• There’s no end destination where you’ll finally catch up to the happiness train and ride it into the eternal bliss sunset.

Society puts so much pressure on people being happy:

• Choose a job that brings you joy but also a partner that does the same.
• Workout because your cortisol levels will decrease
• have plenty of sex so your serotonin increases.
• Have hobbies you love and friends you love more.
• Because all of this combined will ensure your happiness.

When you focus your attention too much on anything, you’re bound to smother it. Happiness shouldn’t be a part-time job but, rather, a byproduct of just having fun with life.