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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

by Mark Manson

The Two Selves

Humans are the only animals that can conceptualize and think about themselves in an abstract manner. Happiness comes from caring about something greater than yourself.

There are two selves - the physical, and the conceptual. We try to keep our conceptual se...

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Accepting Negative Experiences

“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.” says Mark Manson.

This is referred to as “the backwards law” by Alan Watts. One must be com...

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Happiness Is a Problem

The hedonic treadmill - our innate tendency to revert to default levels of happiness despite temporary spikes in happiness - prevents us from being in a constant state of euphoria; in short, we are wired to be dissatisfied. In fact, without pain, we wouldn’t know...

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You Are Not Special

Tough as it may sound, one must not be delusional about one’s achievements - entitlement is a failed strategy.

There is a general fear of accepting of being average, while our lives are being filled with the extremes of the bell curve of human experience.

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Long-Term Happiness And Personal Values

Many people are looking for short-term highs over long-term, profound happiness. Many have their lives centered around values such as material success, pleasure, always being right, or always staying positive.

These values can be socially destructive, not controllable nor i...

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Being overburdened by incoming problems makes us feel victimized. The feeling that we are choosing our own problems, however, makes us feel empowered.

We don’t always control what is happening to us, but we can control how we choose to feel about it.

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Identity And How We Process Experiences

Our mind’s biggest priority when processing experiences is to interpret them in such a way that they will cohere with all of our previous experiences, feelings, and beliefs - what is known as “the false memory syndrome”.

Manson’s Law of Avoidance says that “the more...

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The "Do Something" Principle

There is a pipeline which we can follow: action leads to inspiration, which leads to motivation.

The “do something” principle states that inspiration is seen as a reward, not as a prerequisite, and failure feels unimportant. Doing something can be your only...

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To have an identity of our own, there are things which we must say no to.

There are, for example, toxic relationships, victim-saver pairs, which we must learn to reject. Without conflict, there can be no trust, and trust is like a china plate - break it once, you can put it...

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Humans are the only animals that can conceptualize and think about themselves in an abstract manner.

Happiness comes from caring about something greater than yourself. There are two selves - the physical, and the conceptual.

We try to keep our conce...

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