How to figure out what matters most to you

At first it almost seems like a contradiction to the first point, and in the contrary way of humans it is.

However, this made more sense to me when it was phrased as ‘variety’.

Basically, it’s the need we have to seek out new experiences - new friends, new jobs, new things to learn - with the downside of instability or impulsive behaviour.

Everyone wants to feel significant- you have to choose carefully about how you achieve this feeling.

“Using the power of decision gives you the capacity to get past any excuse to change any and every part of your life in an instant,” cautioned Robbins.

To satisfy this need in a way that will make us feel good in the long run we must choose to be productive, not destructive.

Connection and Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something.

Connection can be a positive thing, of course, but the negative ways it tends to show up fall into the categories of shallow friendships.

Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding.

‘Motion equals emotion’ - It’s a very old idea that self-esteem comes from your actions and a sense of achievement.

“Remember, rewards come in action, not in discussion.” - Tony Robbins

Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others.

“Only those who have learned the power of sincere and selfless contribution experience life’s deepest joy, true fulfilment.” - Tony Robbins

While the top four needs in this list above are what shape our personality - with the last two (growth and contribution) are what is shaping our spiritual needs, each human subconsciously puts these six needs in their own order of importance.