How Will You Measure Your Life? (Harvard Business Review Classics)

You first priority is not what you like most, it's what you spent your resources (time, energy, money) on. So, if you think family is your 1st priority, then you have to prove it by spending more resources on your family than any other possibility.

You cannot say, "My kids are toddlers right now, for now, I can concentrate on my job, when they are grown-ups, I'll move my focus on them." No you can't. By then, the opportunity would already have ran away. You have to invest your resources right from the birth.

Fill in the blanks and you think upon the answer. What job has my mom hired me for? Does she want me to help her in her chores? spend more time? Handle my siblings? Be good in academics? Someone to rely on?

What job has my brother hired me for? He wants me to advice him things? Help in homework? Be a protection? Someone to rely on? His speaker? Someone who stands for him?

Children learn not when you are ready teach, but when they are ready to learn.

So when they are ready to learn, and if you are not there, they will learn from someone else, when they will learn everything from someone else bit by bit, are they still your children?

The point is not to protect them from the 'Bad dirty world'. You should be there when you think they are going to be ready to learn a life-long-lesson. Or you will loose your children. Like Dell lose itself to Asus(long story man)

There are three things- Resources, processes, priorities. A child is taught about AI-resource, He wants his friends to be jealous of him-priority, he makes an app which was Not taught to him directly and publish it-process. Another example could be planning a camp trip by self. These processes are really really important for your children. Do not give every opportunity to them. If he is in a homework crisis, do not help him. He would think, it's ok to have he crisis, grades are more important. Don't help your child always.

Culture is going to be built anyway. But it is on you to make it good. Culture is how you treat a problem when it comes to you. Culture can be kindness, politeness, forgiveness, love, etc.. Suppose you wanna build kindness or peace, even if you killed a mosquito, he was doing many things, there was no other option than killing, mourn for 10 seconds. Never howl or scream or yell on your child, if you want love, kiss your child on his head everyday or spend time with him 1 hour everyday.

Charlie did cheating in his formative assessment the other day, for 1 lie, a 100 lies, for those 100 lies, a 100×100 lies. Little did he knew, he would be caught up cheating in JEE Mains, one of the most imporant exams of India. 

When you cross the line once, you cross it again and again and again.

So, don't break anything thinking "Just This Once..."

Purpose is a combination of 

1. likeness-what you wanna be. This is a long-term process. (Ex-Loving science)
2. Commitment- how you commit to it. This is a always doing process. How you do it daily. (Such as read 10 articles of physics daily)
3. metrics - How you measure your success (this is upon you, you have to select how will you measure your success) 

      How Will you Measure Your Life?