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The Art of Saying No

The Art of Saying No

by Damon Zahariades

The Importance Of Prioritizing Your Needs

It’s important that we attend to our own needs before attending to the needs of others. This assertion may make you feel uncomfortable, particularly if you strive to be loving and giving in all that you do. 

But allowing your needs to remain unaddressed while you continuously cater to other...

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The Psychology Of Assertiveness

Being assertive means having the self-confidence to express your needs and wants, and pursue your own ends, even in the face of opposition. It involves telling people where you stand on a given topic and leaving no room for confusion. 

Assertiveness is declaring your point of view and not f...

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Assertiveness Versus Aggressiveness

Aggressiveness is often an impulse. An aggressive person responds in a hostile or inconsiderate manner and often regrets doing so later. 

By contrast, assertiveness is planned, thoughtful, and considerate. An assertive person communicates his or her positio...

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We Want To Avoid Seeming Selfish

We have a limited number of hours to play with each day. That means every time we say yes to someone, we’re saying no to someone or something else. And every time we say no, we free ourselves to spend that time and attention on another person or interest.

Self-care isn’t selfish. It’s neces...

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Your Time And Interests Are Valuable

One of the biggest stumbling blocks for people-pleasers to overcome is feeling responsible for others’ feelings. They fear that saying no will disappoint and anger requestors. This fear prompts them to regularly put others’ priorities ahead of their own.

People pleasers often prioritize oth...

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How To Say No To Yourself

When you give in to temptations, you become a slave to your impulses. The resulting short-term gratification often comes at the expense of long-term fulfilment. 

When you resist temptations with declarative statements that begin with “I don’t…” you become the architect of a life built upon ...

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