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Stop Being A People Pleaser! Learn How To Set Boundaries And Say NO - Without Feeling Guilty! Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?If so, THE ART OF SAYING NO is for you.Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process. DOWNLOAD The Art Of Saying NO: How To Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time And Energy, And Refuse To Be Taken For Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!) Amazon bestselling author, Damon Zahariades, provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.In THE ART OF SAYING NO, you'll discover:

  • my personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)
  • the top 11 reasons we tend to say yes when we know we should say no
  • 10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse
  • why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)
  • the best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries
  • how to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)
PLUS, BONUS MATERIAL: dedicated sections on saying no to your spouse, kids, friends, neighbors, coworkers, clients, bosses, and even strangers!If you're sick and tired of being taken for granted, grab your copy of THE ART OF SAYING NO today! Start taking control of your life by learning how to say that simple, beautiful word: "No."Scroll to the top of the page and click the "BUY NOW" button!

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The Art of Saying No by Damon Zahariades

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The Importance Of Prioritizing Your Needs

The Importance Of Prioritizing Your Needs

It’s important that we attend to our own needs before attending to the needs of others. This assertion may make you feel uncomfortable, particularly if you strive to be loving and giving in all that you do. 

But allowing your needs to remain unaddressed while you continuously cater to others is the path toward resentment and bitterness.

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The Psychology Of Assertiveness

The Psychology Of Assertiveness

Being assertive means having the self-confidence to express your needs and wants, and pursue your own ends, even in the face of opposition. It involves telling people where you stand on a given topic and leaving no room for confusion. 

Assertiveness is declaring your point of view and not feeling as if you need others’ approval or validation.

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Assertiveness Versus Aggressiveness

Assertiveness Versus Aggressiveness

Aggressiveness is often an impulse. An aggressive person responds in a hostile or inconsiderate manner and often regrets doing so later. 

By contrast, assertiveness is planned, thoughtful, and considerate. An assertive person communicates his or her position with clarity while taking the other person’s feelings into account. 

The aggressive individual is loud, opinionated, and self-absorbed. The assertive individual understands how to express his or her point of view with grace.

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Saying no to people is one of the most important skills you can

It frees you to pursue your own interests, both personal and professional. To that end, it’ll boost your productivity, improve your relationships, and fill you with a sense of confident calm that may seem alien to you at this moment.

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Psychology of Assertiveness

Being assertive means having the self-confidence to express your needs and wants, and pursue your own ends, even in the face of opposition. It involves telling people where you stand on a given topic and leaving no room for confusion. Assertiveness is declaring your point of view and not feeling as if you need others’ approval or validation. It is a learned trait.

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We want others to like us

We want others to be drawn to us, to trust us, and to feel better for having spent time with us. It's unsurprising that we often say yes when we know we should say no. It's an instinctive response borne of our longing for other people's approval. But it's important to recognize this yearning for validation as a trigger for our tendency to say yes. When we're aware of our motivations, we can review them and take steps to realign our decisions with our values.

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The way you rebuff request of the requestor gracefully, be assertive but no aggressive.

Be assertive but not aggressive.

"people may forget your “NO”, but they will never forget how you said it."

  • Assertiveness is declaring your point of view without needing others’ approval or validation. So long as you are being respectful and saying no with grace, how requestors react to it is neither in your control nor your responsibility.
  • Aggressiveness is quarrelsome. An aggressive individual communicates in a way that’s rude, dismissive, and even threatening, which definitely fast track to failure.

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GREG MCKEOWN

If You Don’t Prioritize Your Life, Someone Else Will

GREG MCKEOWN

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For People Pleasers

For People Pleasers

Saying 'NO' to people is one of the most important skills you can develop.

It frees you to pursue your own interests, both personal and professional.

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Why say 'NO'

Saying yes to one thing is saying no to some other thing. Always saying yes putting others' priorities above our own, we are saying no to our aspirations and needs.

Helping others is a good thing. But neglecting our desires and needs in the process, we are hindering our own growth.

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-Mahatma Gandhi

A 'no' uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble.

-MAHATMA GANDHI

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Why do we struggle to say NO

  1. We don't want to offend people: As long as we are being respectful, there's nothing to feel guilty of.
  2. We do not want to disappoint people.
  3. We do not want to appear selfish: We are solely responsible for making sure our needs are met. No one is going to do that for us.
  4. Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)
  5. We want to avoid conflicts: Conflicts aren't necessarily bad and harmony is not always possible.

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Understanding The Concept Of Seeming Selfish

Understanding The Concept Of Seeming Selfish

We have a limited number of hours to play with each day. That means every time we say yes to someone, we’re saying no to someone or something else. And every time we say no, we free ourselves to spend that time and attention on another person or interest. In this light, is it truly selfish to say no? I believe it’s not.

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Prioritizing ourself

Prioritizing ourself

  • Firstly, What is it to prioritize ourselves? Is it being lonely and selfish, no it's not
  • people always have this misconception that makes us feel resentful after declining the requests of others? But at the cost of this mere unreal feeling, we are losing our precious time and totally ourselves. 
  • Often I have this feeling too. But one of my favorite personalities Nikola Tesla said "Greatest inventions only comes in solitary". So chasing your dreams is the most difficult thing, you have to sacrifice several things and 
  • But all this comes only if we prioritize ourselves and knowing that subtle art of saying no gracefully.

" Before saying yes to others make sure you are not saying no to yourself...!!! "

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