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How to Ask the Right Question in the Right Way
How to Ask the Right Question
- Avoid asking rhetorical questions.
- Ask friendly, clarifying questions.
- Don’t put the listener on the spot.
- Ask open-ended questions.
- Thank the person for their response.
- Avoid tension, as it may lead to poor answers.
- Avoid being too direct.
- Be a willing listener.
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