Trying to minimize the pain by convincing yourself—or someone else—it was “no big deal” will only prolong your pain. The best way to deal with uncomfortable emotions is to face them head-on.
Admit when you're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. Be confident in your ability to cope with discomfort in a healthy manner.
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Use rejection as an opportunity to move forward with more wisdom.
Whether you learn about areas in your life that need improvement, or you simply recognize that being turned down isn’t awful as you imagined, rejection can be a good teacher.
Keep rejection in proper perspective.
One person’s opinion, or one single incident, should never define who you are. Don’t let your self-worth depend upon other people’s opinions of you. Just because someone else thinks something about you, doesn’t mean it’s true.
Whether you got dumped by your long-term love or blindsided by a recent firing, beating yourself up will only keep you down. Speak to yourself like a trusted friend.
If you never get rejected, you may be living too far inside your comfort zone.
You can’t be sure you’re pushing yourself to your limits until you get turned down every now and then. When you get rejected for a project, passed up for a job, or turned down by a friend, you’ll know you’re putting yourself out there.
Mentally strong people admit when they're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. They have confidence in their ability to deal with uncomfortable emotions head-on, which is essential to coping with their discomfort in a healthy manner.
At first, rejection interferes with your need to belong. You move through, not feeling good enough, not worthy, unlovable, confused.
Then you move to introspection, looking for the flaws within yourself that led to the failure.
And we tend to interpret the pain incorrectly - we connect rejection to our self-worth, which makes us feel worse.
Rejection can benefit you. It can build resilience and help you grow and use the lessons you learn to future setbacks.
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