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Habit:5 Seek first to understand, then to be understood

Habit:5 Seek first to understand, then to be understood

People won't express their soft centers unless they feel genuine love and understanding.Once they feel it, they will tell you more than you may want to hear.

So, when someone is speaking try to understand first.Don't pretend you are listening, don't judge the speaker from your self-centered view, don't try to advise without understanding everything first. 

Try to listen with genuine interest and care.

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The Personal Bank Account (PBA)

The Personal Bank Account (PBA)

Just like a checking or savings account at a bank, you can make deposits into and take withdrawals from your PBA.

PBA deposits :

  • Keep promises to yourself 
  • Do small acts of kindness
  • Be gentle with yourself
  • Magnify your talents

On the contrary, ...

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Dr. Seuss

"So be sure when you step with care and great tact and remember that life's a great balancing act.And will you succeed? Yes,you will,indeed! "

DR. SEUSS

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Habit:2 Begin With The End In Mind

Habit:2 Begin With The End In Mind

Think about the crossroads of your life.Think about friends, school/college,works etc.

Then ask yourself: who's controlling these?

If you don't control,someone else will control your life.

So, at first set your missions or goals of life.Then try your best to achieve those. For t...

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Habit:3  Put first things first

Habit:3 Put first things first

It's all about learning to prioritize and manage your time so that your first things come first,not last. Putting first things first can also help you learn to overcome your fears and be strong. For this:

  • Get a planner and plan weekly.
  • Come out from your comfort zone.Rememb...

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Habit:7 Sharpen the saw

Habit:7 Sharpen the saw

It means regularly renewing the four dimensions of your life- physical,mental,emotional and spiritual. 

You have to balance all these dimensions.

For instance : doing exercise will benefit both your body and mind. Journaling, reading books, meditation or prayer can also heal you menta...

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Habit:4 Think Win-Win

Habit:4 Think Win-Win

There are 4 types of attitude towards life:

  1. Win-Lose: Having this, a person tries to use others for own selfish perposes. He or she gets jealous of other's success.
  2. Lose-Win: With this, one can be used by others. Thus, he or she can lose self-respect and confidence.
  3. Los...

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What Exactly Habits Are!

What Exactly Habits Are!

Habits are things we do repeatedly.But most of the time we're hardly aware that we even have them.Depending on what they are, our habits will either make us or break us. 

Luckily,you are stronger than your habits.You can change them.

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Habit:6 Synergize

Habit:6 Synergize

"Alone we can do so little,together we can do so much." -Helen Keller

Synergy doesn’t just happen. It’s a process. You have to get there. And the foundation of getting there is this: Learn to celebrate differences.

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George Eliot

What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?

GEORGE ELIOT

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Paradigms About Life

Paradigms About Life

You can usually tell what your paradigm is by asking yourself a few questions like :

  • What is the driving force of my life?
  • What do I spend my time thinking about ?
  • Who or what are my obsessions?

Whatever's most important to you will become your parad...

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Habit:1 Be Proactive

Habit:1 Be Proactive

  • Proactive people use their power tools: self-awareness,conscience,imagination and willpower.
  • Proactive people make choices based on values. They think before they act.
  • They use 'Proactive language' like, instead of saying" I can't, they say, " there's gotta be a way."

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Paradigms

Paradigms

A paradigm is the way you see something; it's your point of view, frame of reference, or belief. Paradigms are like glasses. 

Sometimes our paradigms are way off the mark, and as a result, they can create limitations in our life.

For instance: if you believe you're weak in maths, tha...

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The Relationship Bank Account(RBA)

The Relationship Bank Account(RBA)

RBA represents the amount of trust and confidence you have in each of your relationships.

Like the PBA (personal bank account) you can make deposits and improve the relationship or take withdrawals and weaken it.Some deposits are: keeping promises, Being loyal to everyone, saying you are s...

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