Fabiha B's Key Ideas from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens
by Sean Covey

You can usually tell what your paradigm is by asking yourself a few questions like :

• What is the driving force of my life?
• What do I spend my time thinking about ?
• Who or what are my obsessions?

Whatever's most important to you will become your paradigm, your glasses, or your lIfe center. 

And Principle-Centered life is The Real Thing. Like, honesty is a principle, hard work is a principle. A principle centered life is the most stable , unshakable foundation you can build upon.

Just like a checking or savings account at a bank, you can make deposits into and take withdrawals from your PBA.

PBA deposits :

• Keep promises to yourself 
• Do small acts of kindness
• Be gentle with yourself
• Magnify your talents

On the contrary, PBA withdrawals can be like:

• Break personal promise
• Keep to yourself
• Beat yourself up
• Bury your talents

• Proactive people use their power tools: self-awareness,conscience,imagination and willpower.
• Proactive people make choices based on values. They think before they act.
• They use 'Proactive language' like, instead of saying" I can't, they say, " there's gotta be a way."
• Take responsibility for their choices.
• Can brush things off without getting offended. 
• They take initiative to make it happen.

Think about the crossroads of your life.Think about friends, school/college,works etc.

Then ask yourself: who's controlling these?

If you don't control,someone else will control your life.

So, at first set your missions or goals of life.Then try your best to achieve those. For this, you have to turn your weaknesses ito strengths.Thus you can make your life extraordinary.

It's all about learning to prioritize and manage your time so that your first things come first,not last. Putting first things first can also help you learn to overcome your fears and be strong. For this:

• Get a planner and plan weekly.
• Come out from your comfort zone.Remember, the risk of riskless living is the greatest risk of all.
• Never let your fears make your decisions.
• Be strong in hard moments. 'Cause winning means rising each time you fall.
• Try to handle peer pressure.
• Do the things which will lead you to your goals even it's disgusting, super-boring; such as , studying for test.

RBA represents the amount of trust and confidence you have in each of your relationships.

Like the PBA (personal bank account) you can make deposits and improve the relationship or take withdrawals and weaken it.Some deposits are: keeping promises, Being loyal to everyone, saying you are sorry when needed. On the other hand, withdrawals are the opposites of these ; such as: breaking promises, gossiping about others, talking too much, being arrogant etc.

There are 4 types of attitude towards life:

1. Win-Lose: Having this, a person tries to use others for own selfish perposes. He or she gets jealous of other's success.
2. Lose-Win: With this, one can be used by others. Thus, he or she can lose self-respect and confidence.
3. Lose-Lose: It says, "If I'm going down, then you are going down with me too.
4. Win-Win : It's a belief that everyone can win. You can achieve this by not comparing with others. Just enjoy differences and work together. Both of you can win.

People won't express their soft centers unless they feel genuine love and understanding.Once they feel it, they will tell you more than you may want to hear.

So, when someone is speaking try to understand first.Don't pretend you are listening, don't judge the speaker from your self-centered view, don't try to advise without understanding everything first. 

Try to listen with genuine interest and care.

"Alone we can do so little,together we can do so much." -Helen Keller

Synergy doesn’t just happen. It’s a process. You have to get there. And the foundation of getting there is this: Learn to celebrate differences.

It means regularly renewing the four dimensions of your life- physical,mental,emotional and spiritual. 

You have to balance all these dimensions.

For instance : doing exercise will benefit both your body and mind. Journaling, reading books, meditation or prayer can also heal you mentally and spiritually.