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How to Overcome Your Fear of Rejection | Brian Tracy

Accept the Worst Possible Outcome

Start telling yourself,"If it happens this way, I’ll learn to live with it."

Once you have resolved to accept the worst, should it occur, you no longer have anything to worry about. All the stress caused by denial, by refusing to face what the worst could be, suddenly disappears.

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