MORE IDEAS FROM THE ARTICLE
We search for a source to our suffering and we tend to settle on people as the source of the misery because we know that people are capable of being responsible for what they’ve done.
Blame is a defense mechanism. What we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.
The benefit in blame is that it allows us to avoid feeling like we’re failing ourselves, that we lack the strength and maturity to come to terms with the reality of unfairness or bad luck.
Assigning responsibility to others is sometimes possible, but blame itself doesn’t need to be a part of it:
Blame is not responsibility. It is the absurd act rejecting the reality we’ve been given and charging an unwilling and perhaps unwitting party with improving it, even if that party is an inanimate object sometimes.
And blaming is not useful.
It is taking responsibility for what happens to us, regardless of who we might think caused it.
When blame enters the picture, we start rejecting reality itself, which is the very definition of suffering.
We judge ourselves and others morally for things that didn't come out as intended, were unforeseen, or were influenced by factors beyond one's control.
The judgment we should receive is based on how our actions turned out, rather than our intentions, no matter how good they were. This is called 'Moral Luck'.
Our body will take care of itself if left on its own. It is our mind which is the culprit, running like a motor, inducing low-grade anxiety inside us.
Sleep is not something you have to do, but something which happens naturally to you. If an insomniac forgets that he is an insomniac, he will have a good night's sleep.
You can befriend your demons, by facing them and objectively understanding the insecurity.
You will get insights about your demon and will begin to realize your various traits and the side effects it produces.