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How to overcome fear of rejection
How to embrace vulnerability
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Our Feelings Are Not Explicit
Most of the time you feel something, nobody else knows about it. So don’t get angry when people aren’t responding to you.
If you deceive your thoughts with your actions, don’t get angry when you fool people.
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Explicit Social Behaviors
Most of the intentions behind our actions are hidden. If a person is feeling depressed or angry, usually the resulting behaviors distort their true feelings.
By focusing on empathy you can usually break away these subversions and get to the heart of the issue faster.
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We Are All Emotional Beings
Don't assume everything is fine just because someone isn’t having a nervous breakdown.
We all have our individual problems, angst, and upsets that are normally repressed.
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We're (Mostly) Focused On Ourselves
- People are spending only a small part of their time on judging you; your self-judgment is overwhelmingly larger.
- People who seem to be mean don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions, but generally, the hurt you feel is a side-effect.
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Selfish Altruism
It happens when helping you directly or indirectly helps me. And our behavior is largely dictated by it.
Start understanding the motives of people and appeal to them as if they were selfish. Don’t expect people to offer aid outside of selfish altruism, it isn’t impossible,...
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Suffering From Loneliness
We are social animals and we feel especially sensitive to any threats to becoming ostracized.
So many people who seem to have it all suffer from periods of loneliness.
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People Have Poor Memories
People are forgetful by nature (especially with information they don't find relatable), so don’t assume hostility or disinterest if something is forgotten.
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Recognizing warning signs
The most dangerous emotions are the ones you don’t know are affecting you. When you know what happens when the worries start, you’ll be relieved and you'll also be able to do something constructive about them. So make a list with thoughts you have when you get worried, physical sensa...
Feelings are summary judgments
Most of the time we don’t second guess them, and even if we do, they often end up overwhelming us.
Negative feelings are very powerful and harder to question: we identify with them effortlessly. “I feel it, so it must be true” is often our default setting.
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