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The Critical 7 Rules To Understand People
Our Feelings Are Not Explicit
Most of the time you feel something, nobody else knows about it. So don’t get angry when people aren’t responding to you.
If you deceive your thoughts with your actions, don’t get angry when you fool people.
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7 Characteristics Of Strategic Thinkers
- Vision: they use a mix of logic and creativity to define ambitious but rigorous visions of what needs to be achieved.
- Framework: taking into account their own biases, timeline and resources, they can define their objectives and develop multiple action plans.
- Perceptiveness: they observe and understand the world from all the different perspectives.
- Assertiveness: They’re good at evaluating, deciding and promptly executing their decisions without letting doubts fog their vision.
- Flexibility: they seek advice to compensate for their weaknesses and then twist their ideas and framework to achieve their goals. But they are flexible without breaking the rules.
- Emotional Balance: they are aware and balance their emotions so as to favor the achievement of their goals.
- Patience: they understand that most achievements are a long-term endeavor involving various milestones and a lot of effort.
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Not saying No
First, say yes to your core values, then say no to the situation. Finally, say yes to the relationship.
A not-to-do list or some predefined phrases will help you to say no in unexpect...
Not respecting your calendar
Treat the meeting with yourself as it was a meeting with a third party. It’s only you who can act on your most important tasks with priority.
Make sure that you set up boundaries for yourself and for other people. Remember to communicate with them clearly.
Such a boundary can be that you leave your office at a certain time each day because your family is your priority. It doesn’t mean, of course, that you can’t work later in periods of high workload.
Multitasking
Ringing phones, text messages, reminders, pop-ups, social media, email.
There’re countless studies demonstrating that multitasking will hinder your work both in terms of quality and quantity.
Resist the temptation to get in the loop and do one thing at a time.
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Understanding morality
Psychologists do not understand human moral behavior, because it seldom makes any logical sense.
Using moral philosophy and psychology, biology, economics, mathematics, and computer science, ...
Our default mode
Through a series of experiments, it was discovered that despite the temptation to be selfish, most people show selflessness.
This is particularly true when subjects were forced to make their decision under time pressure; people are prone to cooperation when they rely more on intuition.
Creating quantitative models
Most of the psychological theories are verbal, but words can be imprecise. If "cooperation is intuitive", it needs to state when. And what does "intuitive" mean?
In order to solve this, computer simulations of society were developed.