<p>When your partner wants to address a problem, you avoid the topic or simply say: <i>"I don't think we're having an issue; it's going to go away." </i><br></p><p><span>Your partner grows resentful of your inability to face problems together and leaves.</span><br></p>

You avoid facing problems

<p>You avoid anything that leads to a bigger commitment. You're always wondering: "<i>if it goes wrong, how can I extricate myself easily from this relationship?</i>" </p><p><span><b>Because commitment reduces your ability to leave a relationship without financial or emotional consequences, you tend to avoid it.</b></span></p>

You have an eye on the exit

<p><span>You find fault with every little thing they do, from the way they cook to the clothes they wear. You are impossible to please, and your partner eventually gives up trying and breaks up with you.</span></p>

You criticize everything they do

<ul><li><b>Find out your attachment style</b>. The ideal type of attachment is "secure": when you feel like they can trust others. </li><li><b>Find out what triggers your fears</b> to help you either avoid them or work on them.</li><li><b>Don't confuse the past with the present</b>. Learn to say: <i>"that was then, this is now."</i></li><li>Learn to talk about your feelings and problems.</li></ul>

Ending Self-Sabotage

<div><p><span>You break up with partners on the slightest of issues, only to start dating another person right away and repeat the cycle. </span></p><p><span><b>You don't want to be seen as a "player" but you can't seem to find someone who you can commit to.</b></span></p></div>
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You are known as a "serial dater"

<div><p><span>The aim of Gaslighting is to deny the other person's reality or experiences. It is a sign that </span>you don't really believe your partners' feelings are real. <br></p><p><span><i>F</i></span><i>or example, if your partner says: "I'm really upset that you canceled our date", you respond with something like: "You're not really upset, it's your fault I canceled and you're just trying to blame me for it."</i><span> </span></p></div>
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You gaslight your partner

<div><p><span>You always talk about yourself in self-deprecating ways: <i>"I'm not as smart as you", "I'm just an idiot, why are you with me?", "You're just with me because you pity me", etc. </i></span></p><p><span>This is a sign of low </span>self-esteem<span>, and </span><span><b>most people do not enjoy being told that they love someone who is worthless. </b></span></p></div>
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Tearing yourself down

<p>When they spend time with other people without you, you fret, text constantly, experience jealousy, and ask for proof that they're being faithful. This may lead your partner to break up with you because they find you controlling.<br></p>

You are paranoid

You meet someone new and happily date for a little while. The connection is great, there is chemistry, and sex is fun. You start spending more and more time together and begin considering becoming a couple. But then, you stop replying to their texts right away. You cancel dates.

Ending Self-Sabotage

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