Remember certain ‘destructive’ traits that your former partners had and try to make a conscious effort to choose a different type.
We should not only learn from the bad choices that we make but learn from the mistakes of others to avoid making them ourselves. In that way, we can move from being our own worst enemy to being our own best friend.
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This goes back to your childhood.
For example: if you’re drawn to the excitement of meeting and starting a relationship with someone who has a lack of morals, character and is untrustworthy, try to find out about how your parents’ unhealthy habits have affected your choice in partners.
If you have a fear of abandonment and rejection and you are constantly ‘setting’ up scenarios that lead to your disappointment, you are the puppeteer controlling this.
Many times, we choose a partner whose basic values are totally different than ours. It is critical that what is important to your partner matches what is important to you.
Watch for signs to determine what is important to your significant other. This can prevent the tendency to walk into a bad situation.
When you see yourself as the ‘poor me’ victim, your actions will confirm a negative view of yourself.
Don’t obsess about past mistakes in life. Let go of unrealistic expectations and visions of where you ‘should be’.
You find fault with every little thing they do, from the way they cook to the clothes they wear. You are impossible to please, and your partner eventually gives up trying and breaks up with you.
Your partner isn’t a mind-reader. It’s up to you to tell them exactly what you need.
Just say “It would mean a lot to me if . .. .” and fill in the blank with whatever you need to feel loved and supported.