“In our culture, we associate vulnerability with emotions we want to avoid such as fear, shame, and uncertainty. Yet we too often lose sight of the fact that vulnerability is also the birthplace of joy, belonging, creativity, authenticity, and love.”

Perfectionism isn’t about growth, improvement, or personal achievement, it’s about fear and avoidance. Therefore, what you should really be focused on is realizing excellence, the best version of yourself despite your flaws.

Seek Excellence Not Perfection

It means having the skills to control your behavior, emotions and thoughts in the pursuit of long-term goals.Emotional regulation skills enable us to live a healthy and well-balanced life, physically, mentally and spiritually.

Emotional Regulation

This is one of the hardest emotional regulation skills to learn - letting go of painful emotional and regrets.When you do manage to release all these negative emotions, you will find that your resilience and ability to deal with the curveballs of life will improve.

Letting Go

Your wellbeing, mentally, physically and spiritually is influenced by the type of relationships you have in your life.The more positive and healthier your relationships are, the more resilient and optimistic you will feel about your life.

Nurture Positive Relationships

You have to recognize that you have the choice in how you react to situations.This will empower you to work with the challenges that you face in your life: you'll have clarity, focus and a purpose.

Applying The Power Of Choice

... to control your emotions:<ul><li>S – Stop</li><li>T – Take A Breath</li><li>O – Observe – your thoughts and feelings</li><li>P- Pull Back – put in some perspective – what is the bigger picture?</li><li>P – Practice What Works – Proceed – what is the best thing to do right now?</li></ul>

The STOPP Technique 

... because they never go away. They will always be a part of your life.The best course of action you can take is to face your fears and move forward.

Accept Negative Feelings

<ul><li>Allowing yourself to be vulnerable takes strength and courage. </li><li>Don’t bottle up your emotions. Become more self-aware:  explore your emotions, ask questions to get in touch with how you are feeling and thinking in a given moment.</li></ul>

Accept Your Vulnerability

It can help you to increase your ability to regulate emotions, decrease stress, anxiety and depression.It can also help you to focus your attention, as well as to observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment.

Practice Mindfulness

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom”.

Consistent physical activity, eating well and getting lots of sleep are critical to you having a resilient and well-balanced life.

Take Care Of Your Body

What is emotional regulation? "It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It can not be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell." - Buddha This quote encapsulates the essence of what "emotion regulation" is all about.

Accept Negative Feelings

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How to be vulnerable

4. Always do your best

Slowing down