Be Vulnerable

• Ignoring context: Crossed arms don’t mean much if the room is cold or the chair they’re sitting in doesn’t have armrests. 
• Not looking for clusters: It’s a consistent grouping of actions (sweating, touching the face, and stuttering together) that is really going to tell you something. 
• Not getting a baseline: If someone is always jumpy, jumpiness doesn’t tell you anything. 
• Not being conscious of biases: If you already like or dislike the person, it’s going to affect your judgment. 

Everybody is aware, in a certain measure, of the different truths life provides us with. One of them, which is also the scariest, is related to the fact that eventually, we all die. 

However, instead of freaking out on the topic, it might be better to learn how to spend our time in a productive and enjoyable way, as if every day was the last that we get to spend with our beloved ones.

They have inflated views of themselves (they think they are better than they actually are).

They make fantastic first impressions. But the stuff that works for narcissists so well in the short term proves lethal in the long term.

In job interviews, narcissists get results, but after three weeks people regard narcissists as untrustworthy. They make awesome first dates, but relationship satisfaction with them shows a big decline after 4 months.