Many workplaces encourage their employees to be vulnerable and authentic as it can bring people closer and make teams stronger.
But doing so can also backfire. Many people fear to be vulnerable at the wrong time or with the wrong person. It may make them seem incompetent if they’re in a more performance-oriented culture at work.
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Just because vulnerability helps to build trust doesn’t mean you should share everything with everybody. The key to vulnerability is in establishing boundaries.
We share our emotions and experiences to move our work, connection or relationship forward. Therefore we have to examine our intention around sharing, question who we’re sharing with, and whether it’s the right thing.
The most vulnerable and authentic leaders personally disclose very little. It means that you can be vulnerable without revealing everything about your emotions or life.
You could say, “I’m really struggling right now. I have some stuff going on, and it’s hard. I want you to know what support looks like for me is that I’ll check in with you if I need something or I may take some time off. I will bring it up with you when it’s helpful for me but don't want to answer a lot of questions about it.”
This is an extremely effective way to speed up the learning process.
If you quiz yourself and answer incorrectly, you are more likely to remember the right answer after you look it up and you'll also remember the fact you didn't remember.
The ability to let others talk and not interrupt them is a skill that you must practice on a daily basis. This allows us to see more of the other person rather than ourselves.
Back in the 1990s, a woman naming Betty Bigombe was able to befriend a warlord by providing an opportunity for them to share their views. Betty Bigombe became Uganda's Woman of the Year for having initiated the peace talks to put an end to the violence between Kony and the Ugandan president and its people.
"Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn’t feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive."
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