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How do you make friends as an adult? You asked Google - here's the answer | Kate Leaver

Build a little intimacy

Try to have a heartfelt chat with your new acquaintance to move them into friendship territory. Find experiences that you are comfortable to share or find a common nemesis to discuss and ask insightful questions.

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