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Push Off Flaws, Be Less Productive: How To Stop Making Excuses
Excuse-making
It's a defense mechanism you use in the battle between your positive self-identity and the common challenges of everyday life.
This habit comes down to an inherent need to protect your ego.
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Excuse-making
It's a defense mechanism you use in the battle between your positive self-identity and the common challenges of everyday life.
This habit comes down to an inherent need to protect your ego.
The self-serving bias
It encourages you to claim your successes and to deflect your failures.
When something good happens, you take the credit, but when something bad happens, you blame it on something out of your control.
Common types of excuses
- Lies: This is one of the worst types of excuses—a straight-up lie.
- Self-handicapping excuses: Such as “I don’t have the skills to do that”, or “That’s not my job.”
- Blame-shifting excuses: Instead of putting the blame on your lack of abilities, you accuse external factors for your missteps or lack of performance.
Hold yourself accountable
- Figure out exactly why you are making them.
- Build better brain habits. Excuse-making is a subconscious process, and breaking a habit requires conscious effort.
- Set realistic expectations so you can structure your time and energy to complete tasks without feeling the need to make excuses.
- Track your progress.
- Don’t be afraid to fail.
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Reflect On Your Excuses
At the end of each day, take a few minutes to look back on the excuses made that day, and try to figure out why you made them.
Look for better ways to approach them.
Find People To Call You Out
Surround yourself with people who will hold you responsible for your excuses.
Find someone who will check in on you each day to ensure you met your goals.