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Perfectionism Test
- You want the "honeymoon" to last forever
- You try to please your partner and have their needs met all the time
- After a fight, you are worried that they will change their mind about you or that the relationship is falling apart
- You view conflict as a failure
- You work really hard to make the relationship work
- You place a lot of expectations on yourself and you exhaust yourself trying to meet them
- You are hyper-vigilant, always looking for mistakes
- You overanalyse the significance of small setbacks in your relationship
- You have a lot of rules and theories on "how to be a perfect partner"
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Learn the benefits of imperfection
Among the benefits are increased self-confidence and getting more enjoyment out of life.
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Practice self compassion
A self-compassionate person can allow themselves to make a mistake and learn from it, rather than self-criticize. If you do recall trauma in your early life, know that your perfectionism is likely one result of that trauma. Journal your negative self-talk and correct them with more compassionate ...
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Start focusing on being "good enough
A good-enough outcome gets the job done, which is often more important than getting it done perfectly.
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Recognize the costs of perfectionism
Consider how it’s affecting your own happiness or preventing you from reaching your goals.
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Recognize the fears behind perfectionism
You may be fearful of what would happen if you did not set such high standards. This is part of the all-or-none thinking in perfectionism. It is highly doubtful that your behavior would shift to the other extreme of being sloppy or lazy if you stopped being a perfectionist, although this is a com...
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