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How to Cope with Perfectionism When It Harms You and Your Relationships

How to Cope with Perfectionism When It Harms You and Your Relationships

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Perfectionism Test

  • ​You want the "honeymoon" to last forever
  • You try to please your partner and have their needs met all the time
  • After a fight, you are worried that they will change their mind about you or that the relationship is falling apart
  • You view conflict as a failure
  • Yo...

Recognize the costs of perfectionism

Consider how it’s affecting your own happiness or preventing you from reaching your goals.

Learn the benefits of imperfection

Among the benefits are increased self-confidence and getting more enjoyment out of life.

Recognize the fears behind perfectionism

You may be fearful of what would happen if you did not set such high standards. This is part of the all-or-none thinking in perfectionism. It is highly doubtful that your behavior would shift to the other extreme of being sloppy or lazy if you stopped being a perfectionist, although this is a com...

Practice self compassion

A self-compassionate person can allow themselves to make a mistake and learn from it, rather than self-criticize. If you do recall trauma in your early life, know that your perfectionism is likely one result of that trauma. Journal your negative self-talk and correct them with more compassionate ...

Start focusing on being "good enough

A good-enough outcome gets the job done, which is often more important than getting it done perfectly.

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