• When someone calls you ugly, it says a whole lot more about them and their problems than about you.
• Whatever issues they’re dealing with has led them to take their frustration out on you.
• The only way to really make this a habit is to become very, v...

• Speak with integrity.

• Say only what you Mean.

• Avoid using the words to speak against yourself or gossip about others.

• Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love

• … is a process that starts the day we’re born. You don’t pick your first language, you don’t choose your first school and you can’t control what attitudes your parents instill in you.
• Parents, peers, teachers, religion, all these influences instill a set of rules

• There are lots of them, waiting to be learned.

1. Start noticing the beliefs you have, which are based on fear and make you unhappy
2. Learn to forgive the people who hurt you, most of all yourself.

• We are “Domesticated” — Social norms & rules are lodged deep within us.

• Practice three skills to rebel against “Domestication.”

1. Awareness: Practice meditation and ...

• In Miguel’s eyes, making assumptions leads to suffering.
• Assumptions often have very little basis in reality and are only real in our imaginations.
• To overcome this expectation, ask questions and maintain clear communication with others