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The (Only) 5 Fears We All Share

Loss of Autonomy

The fear of being immobilized, restricted, overwhelmed, entrapped, smothered, or otherwise controlled by circumstances beyond our control. 

Fear of intimacy, or "fear of commitment," is basically fear of losing one's autonomy.

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The (Only) 5 Fears We All Share

The (Only) 5 Fears We All Share

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/brainsnacks/201203/the-only-5-fears-we-all-share

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The fear of ceasing to exist

The idea of no longer existing is more than just "fear of death". It arouses a primary existential anxiety in all normal humans.

The fear of heights or falling is basically the fear of extinction.

Mutilation

This is the fear of losing any part of our bodily structure or the thought of having our body's boundaries invaded.

Anxiety about animals, such as bugs, spiders, snakes, and other creepy things arises from fear of mutilation.

Loss of Autonomy

The fear of being immobilized, restricted, overwhelmed, entrapped, smothered, or otherwise controlled by circumstances beyond our control. 

Fear of intimacy, or "fear of commitment," is basically fear of losing one's autonomy.

Separation

The fear of abandonment, rejection, loss of connectedness, unwanted, disrespected or devalued. 

The "silent treatment," when imposed by a group, can have a devastating effect on its target.

Ego-death

The fear of humiliation, shame, or any other mechanism of profound self-disapproval. 

The fear of failure or rejection can be read as fear of ego-death. Shame and guilt express the fear of separation and even ego-death. The same is true for embarrassment and humiliation.

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