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The (Only) 5 Fears We All Share

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The (Only) 5 Fears We All Share
President Franklin Roosevelt famously asserted, " The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself." I think he was right: Fear of fear probably causes more problems in our lives than fear itself. That claim needs a bit of explaining, I know. Fear has gotten a bad rap.

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The fear of ceasing to exist

The fear of ceasing to exist

The idea of no longer existing is more than just "fear of death". It arouses a primary existential anxiety in all normal humans.

The fear of heights or falling is basically the fear of extinction.

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Mutilation

This is the fear of losing any part of our bodily structure or the thought of having our body's boundaries invaded.

Anxiety about animals, such as bugs, spiders, snakes, and other creepy things arises from fear of mutilation.

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Loss of Autonomy

Loss of Autonomy

The fear of being immobilized, restricted, overwhelmed, entrapped, smothered, or otherwise controlled by circumstances beyond our control. 

Fear of intimacy, or "fear of commitment," is basically fear of losing one's autonomy.

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Separation

Separation

The fear of abandonment, rejection, loss of connectedness, unwanted, disrespected or devalued. 

The "silent treatment," when imposed by a group, can have a devastating effect on its target.

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Ego-death

Ego-death

The fear of humiliation, shame, or any other mechanism of profound self-disapproval. 

The fear of failure or rejection can be read as fear of ego-death. Shame and guilt express the fear of separation and even ego-death. The same is true for embarrassment and humiliation.

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“We have two ears and one mouth, therefore we should listen twice as much as we speak.”

Active Listening

When someone is coming to you for advice, you have to listen, with intent. You are not supposed to jump into a conclusion and start dishing out advice.

Usually, people just want someone to listen to their problems.

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It’s key to connecting with people to suspend your ego; to put your own needs, wants and opinions aside. Anxiety does the opposite bringing your feelings and expectations to the forefront.

Focus on the other person. Simply listen to what they have to say and ask them to tell you more. 

Reappraisal

Just because you feel it doesn’t make it real. Feelings come from beliefs. Change the beliefs and feelings will change.

Research and anecdotal evidence show that the simple act of positively reimagining something can be enough to decrease anxiety.