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Why Are You Stuck? 5 Questions to Shift Your Mindset And Get Unstuck

The Commitments You're Making

Being stuck is not about a lack of knowledge, it is about lack of execution. If you want to execute your plans, adopt a commitment mindset.

Your commitments are the bridge between you and your ideal life. Commitment is a mindset that is guaranteed to get you unstuck from any situation you find yourself in.

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Why Are You Stuck? 5 Questions to Shift Your Mindset And Get Unstuck

Why Are You Stuck? 5 Questions to Shift Your Mindset And Get Unstuck

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Tim Ferriss

Tim Ferriss

“The hard choices—what we most fear doing, asking, saying—these are very often exactly what we most need to do.”

What's Holding You Down

Some people allow fears to keep them stuck in their situations. Fear has the ability to keep you stuck and control your mindset.

You can silence it by stating this fear out loud and becoming familiar with the worst-case scenario.

Gary Vaynerchuk

Gary Vaynerchuk

“You Don’ t need permission to chase your dreams. Go execute.”

'Needing' Permission

Do not wait for others to approve your choices. When you want something, go for it.

If you want to quit your job, quit. You do not need your friend’s approval to do it. If you want to lose weight, start eating healthy. Do not worry about what other people think of you.

What Ignites Your Fire

If you want to get unstuck, ask yourself “What ignites my fire?

Feeding the fire will keep you focused, motivated and productive.

The Commitments You're Making

Being stuck is not about a lack of knowledge, it is about lack of execution. If you want to execute your plans, adopt a commitment mindset.

Your commitments are the bridge between you and your ideal life. Commitment is a mindset that is guaranteed to get you unstuck from any situation you find yourself in.

The Change You Are Seeking

Once you get clear on your goals, it is easier to get unstuck and shift your mindset.

Be clear on your goals, and the change that you are seeking.

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Feeling stuck

It’s a mixture of feeling paralyzed, depressed, overwhelmed, hopeless, being in doubt about the future and many other similar negative feelings.

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  • Own body: illness, being overweight
  • Mind: bad thinking patterns
  • Key relationships: boss, coworkers, spouse, family, social groups
  • In a job or career
  • In money-related things, or even in negative market trends
  • In constant unhappiness
  • In a lack of creativity or intellectual stimulation or a lack of hope or having no direction in life and similar.
You are not really stuck

You can’t be really stuck, because everything is moving and going forward, and so are you. You are only spending your time, energy and other resources wrong. 

And it’s more than obvious that doing the same things and expecting a different result is crazy. 

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Why You Self-Sabotage

For many people, the fear of rejection and the fear of engulfment keep them out of relationships.

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How You Self-Sabotage

Relationships:

  • You keep yourself isolated.
  • You make so many demands on your partner that he or she feels smothered and ends the relationship.
  • You judge everyone you meet as not being good enough for you.

Work:

  • You keep putting off looking for the kind of job you want.
  • You are able to work, and say you want to, but keep living off other means.
  • You stay in a job that you hate.
  • You keep yourself uneducated regarding doing what you really want to do.
Healing Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior
  • Notice self-judgments.
  • Shift your definition of your worth, from outcomes to effort. Decide that you will define your worth by the loving actions you take for yourself and others.
  • Consciously see mistakes and failure as stepping stones to success, rather than as definitions of your worth. 
  • Learn to be kind and compassionate toward your own feelings
  • Make a decision that you are willing to lose another person rather than lose yourself. 
Reframing your mindset

Stop reacting to life and start responding to it.

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Henry David Thoreau
Henry David Thoreau

“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”

What mindset is

A mindset is a set of assumptions, methods, or notations that is so established that it creates a powerful incentive within you to continue to adopt or accept prior behaviours, choices, or tools.

It’s so powerful that it affects every decision-making process. It predetermines your responses and interpretations of situations.

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Freewrite

When you are feeling stuck, start writing about whatever is on your mind.

Set aside 10 to 15 minutes. It may start out as a page of gibberish, but soon ideas will start to flow.

Tackle smaller tasks first

If you feel overwhelmed by how little you have progressed, switch to working on mindless tasks that require little attention and allow the mind to wander. Wash the dishes, organize your bookshelf, or do laundry. 

By accomplishing small wins, you develop momentum and confidence to overcome your mental block.

Change your environment
The cleanliness of your workspace affects your performance and mood at work. 
  • Having a neat, organized desk will improve your productivity and focus. 
  • A messy space can enhance creativity and help you gain fresh insights. 

Play around with your home or office environment and discover what works best for you.

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Zeno of Citium

“We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say.”

Zeno of Citium
Good listening

Good listening doesn't follow a technique as much as being willing to enter into another person's life.

Listening through the screen of your own desires means that you are listening to your own voice and desires. It is the same as not listening at all. Listening demands wiping the slate of your mind clean.

Not knowing what to say

Not knowing what to say when someone confides in you is a daunting feeling. However, we feel that way because we mistakenly think the person reaching out is asking for an explanation.

It is more important just to be there, so the other person doesn't feel alone.

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You are not your thoughts

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Separate thoughts from the act of thinking

We usually buy into what our feelings tell us and allow them to overly direct our actions and choices. 

Instead, notice the act of thinking without getting tangled in your thoughts. See your thoughts as ongoing attempts to make meaning of the world — give them power only to the degree that they help you. 

Disobey yourself on purpose

The mind's power over you is an illusion. For instance, say one thing while doing the opposite. You will find that it is possible to do the opposite of what you are thinking. (For example, type, I cannot type this sentence, while you are typing the sentence.) Regularly doing this exercise can give you more freedom to do hard things.

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Fear of criticism

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Fear of poverty

Many people are stuck in “survival mode.” Too many people settle for mediocrity because they think they must “survive” instead of “thrive.”

Never let the fear of poverty hold you back from your dreams.

Fear of old age (and death)

Benjamin Franklin once said, "Most people die at 25 and are buried at 75." This metaphorical death comes when people figure they can't make it happen, so they end up quitting in advance.

Fear of old age can also be harmful when a person has to go through a major career transition. In the end, age is far less important than your belief in yourself.

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What Emotional Fitness is

It's the idea that in order to lead healthy, happy emotional lives we need consistent habits and exercises that support our mental health and wellbeing.

The Benefits of Emotional Fitness
  • Decreased stress: you learn to manage your triggers.
  • Better communication in relationships: it helps you to tolerate and manage difficult emotions and then find more productive ways to work through difficulties.
  • Decreased anxiety: you train your mind to stop fearing its own emotional reactions.
  • You stick with your goals: you learn to deal with emotions like anxiety, shame, regret.
  • Increased self-awareness: you learn to build a better relationship with your emotions.
Get to know your emotions
  • Emotional clarity: Taking the time to deliberately reflect on our emotions, to observe and label them.
  • Emotional myth-busting: Eliminating myths and misconceptions floating around people’s minds about emotions. 
  • Emotional tolerance: Learning to resist short-term gratification and instead invest in long-term values.

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Lacking a strong WHY

If you're not really interested in doing this thing (goal, project, etc.):

  • Don’t do it: Stop lying to yourself and just quit.
  • Find a strong WHY under the surface
Your goal is overwhelming you

If you procrastinate because your goal seems too much and you don't know where to start, break it down into smaller parts. It will be easier to tackle.

Make a rough project timeline and identify the first chunk to get started with and within the first chunk, the very first action.

Not believing in yourself

If you don't believe you can do a certain thing:

  • Look at your past achievements and remind yourself that you managed to do very challenging goals before.
  • Identify your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones. 

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