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The Importance Of Saying No
It is the norm in Western cultures to smile and say polite things even when you don't feel like it, to tell white lies and agree with someone you don't actually agree with. People learn to pretend to be friends with people they don't actually like.
The downside of this is that you never know if you can completely trust the person you're talking to. There is a pressure in the West to be likable that people often reconfigure their entire personality depending on the person they're dealing with.
Honesty is a natural human craving. Part of living honestly is becoming comfortable with the word 'NO'.
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And because you and I and everybody else all have differing needs and personal histories and life circumstances, we will all inevitably come to differing correct answers about what our lives mean and how they should be lived.
MARK MANSON
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The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.
MANSONS LAW OF AVOIDANCE
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Dont Try
Todays culture is obsessed with unrealistically positive expectations.
- Be happier
- Be the best
- Be smarter
- Be richer
- Be sexier
- More powerful
- More productive
- More admired
Be perfect and amazing an...
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Happiness Is A Problem
Suffering is biologically useful as it is natures preferred agent for inspiring change. We are wired to become dissatisfied with whatever we have and satisfied by only what we don't have.
Problems will never fucking go away. They just get exchanged ...
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The Tyranny Of Exceptionalism
The majority of life is unextraordinary, indeed quite average.
Having the Internet, social media sites and hundred plus TV channels is amazing. But this flood of extreme information has conditioned us to believe that exceptionalism is the new normal.
Technology and ma...
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Genetics And The Hand We're Dealt
Nobody makes it through life without collecting a few scars along the way -
- Psychiatric disorders
- Struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts
- Having been subjected to abuse or neglect
- Dealt with a tragedy or death of a loved one
- Surv...
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Decision making based on emotional intuition, without the aid of reason to keep it in line, pretty much always sucks.
You know who bases their entire lives on their emotions?
Three year old...
MARK MANSON
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The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck
Most of us struggle through life giving way too many fucks in situations where fucks dont deserve to be given.
Your going to die some day. In the short time you have here, if you go round giving a fuck about everything and everyone, you are going to...
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Failure Is The Way Forward
When any result is regarded as progress and important, we propel ourselves ahead. We feel free to fail and that failure moves us forward.
The do something principle helps us to overcome procrastination. That something can be the smallest viable action toward something else....
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Honesty is communication with no conditions, no strings attached, no ulterior motive, no sales job, no desperate attempt to be liked.
When things suck, you say so openly and without apology.
MARK MANSON
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Without conflict, there can be no trust.
Conflict exists to show us who is there for us unconditionally and who is just there for the benefits.
MARK MANSON
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Values underlie everything we are and do.
If what we value is unhelpful, if what we consider success/failure is poorly chosen, then everything based upon those values - the thoughts, emotions and day to day feelings - will be out ...
MARK MANSON
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A Book About Hope
This self help guide teaches us that the key to being happier is to stop trying to be positive all the time and instead to become better at handling adversity.
FUCK POSITIVITY!
Sometimes things are fucked up and we ha...
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Life itself is a form of suffering.
The rich suffer because of their riches.
The poor suffer because of their poverty.
People without a family suffer ...
THE PRINCE - BUDDHA
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Ultimately, the only way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in ones life is through a rejection of alternatives, a narrowing of freedom, a choice of commitment to one place, one belief or (gulp) one person.
MARK MANSON
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You Are Not Special
If you've got a problem, chances are millions of other people have had it in the past, have it now, and are going to in the future. This doesn't minimise your problem, it just means that you are not special.
The first step towards solving your problems is to acknowledge the...
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Boundries
People in a healthy relationship have strong boundaries and take responsibility for their own values and problems.
People in a toxic relationship with poor or no boundaries will regularly avoid responsibility for their own problems and take responsibility for their partners problems.
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In life we have a limited amount of fucks to give. Time ticks away. So choose your fucks wisely. A book worth gifting, to your self, and to those around you.
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