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People in a healthy relationship have strong boundaries and take responsibility for their own values and problems.

People in a toxic relationship with poor or no boundaries will regularly avoid responsibility for their own problems and take responsibility for their partners problems.

Entitled people expect others to take responsibility for their problems.

'I want a nice relaxing break. You should have known and canceled your plans'.

This is avoiding accepting responsibility for their own problems, resulting in fragile fake relationships.


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Genetics And The Hand We're Dealt

Genetics And The Hand We're Dealt

Nobody makes it through life without collecting a few scars along the way -

  • Psychiatric disorders
  • Struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts
  • Having been subjected to abuse or neglect
  • Dealt with a tragedy or death of a loved one
  • Surv...


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The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck

The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck

Most of us struggle through life giving way too many fucks in situations where fucks dont deserve to be given.

Your going to die some day. In the short time you have here, if you go round giving a fuck about everything and everyone, you are going to...


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A Book About Hope

A Book About Hope

This self help guide teaches us that the key to being happier is to stop trying to be positive all the time and instead to become better at handling adversity.


Sometimes things are fucked up and we ha...


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Failure Is The Way Forward

Failure Is The Way Forward

When any result is regarded as progress and important, we propel ourselves ahead. We feel free to fail and that failure moves us forward.

The do something principle helps us to overcome procrastination. That something can be the smallest viable action toward something else....


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Dont Try

Dont Try

Todays culture is obsessed with unrealistically positive expectations.

  • Be happier
  • Be the best
  • Be smarter
  • Be richer
  • Be sexier
  • More powerful
  • More productive
  • More admired

Be perfect and amazing an...


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Being open to your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others.


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Life itself is a form of suffering.

The rich suffer because of their riches.

The poor suffer because of their poverty.

People without a family suffer ...



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Happiness Is A Problem

Happiness Is A Problem

Suffering is biologically useful as it is natures preferred agent for inspiring change. We are wired to become dissatisfied with whatever we have and satisfied by only what we don't have.

Problems will never fucking go away. They just get exchanged ...


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No truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of the mirror and recite that she's happy. She just is.


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Ultimately, the only way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in ones life is through a rejection of alternatives, a narrowing of freedom, a choice of commitment to one place, one belief or (gulp) one person.



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You Are Not Special

You Are Not Special

If you've got a problem, chances are millions of other people have had it in the past, have it now, and are going to in the future. This doesn't minimise your problem, it just means that you are not special.

The first step towards solving your problems is to acknowledge the...


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The Importance Of Saying No

The Importance Of Saying No

It is the norm in Western cultures to smile and say polite things even when you don't feel like it, to tell white lies and agree with someone you don't actually agree with. People learn to pretend to be friends with people they don't actually like.

The downside of this is t...


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The Tyranny Of Exceptionalism

The Tyranny Of Exceptionalism

The majority of life is unextraordinary, indeed quite average.

Having the Internet, social media sites and hundred plus TV channels is amazing. But this flood of extreme information has conditioned us to believe that exceptionalism is the new normal.

Technology and ma...


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Honesty is communication with no conditions, no strings attached, no ulterior motive, no sales job, no desperate attempt to be liked.

When things suck, you say so openly and without apology.



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Decision making based on emotional intuition, without the aid of reason to keep it in line, pretty much always sucks.

You know who bases their entire lives on their emotions?

Three year old...



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You stand in front of the mirror repeating affirmations saying that you're beautiful because you feel as though you're not beautiful already.


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The victim creates more and more problems to solve - not because additional real problems exist, but because it gets her attention and affection she craves.

The saver solves and solves - not because she actually care...


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And because you and I and everybody else all have differing needs and personal histories and life circumstances, we will all inevitably come to differing correct answers about what our lives mean and how they should be lived.



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The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.



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Death is the only thing we can know with any certainty.



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Reserve your fucks for what truly matters.


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Without conflict, there can be no trust.

Conflict exists to show us who is there for us unconditionally and who is just there for the benefits.



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If everyone were extraordinary, then by definition no one would be extraordinary.



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Values underlie everything we are and do.

If what we value is unhelpful, if what we consider success/failure is poorly chosen, then everything based upon those values - the thoughts, emotions and day to day feelings - will be out ...



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Blaming Your Partner For Your Emotions

Blaming Your Partner For Your Emotions

Blaming our partners for our emotions is selfish and a classic example of the poor maintenance of personal boundaries. When you set a precedent that your partner is responsible for how you feel at all times (and vice-versa), this can easily ...

Blaming Your Partner

Blaming Your Partner

... for your own emotions. This is a subtle form of selfishness and a classic example of the poor maintenance of personal boundaries. Take responsibility for your own emotions and expect your partner to be responsible for theirs. 

Rules Followed By Accountable Leaders

  1. They take full responsibility for decisions.
  2. They take responsibility for communication and make sure their decisions and actions plans are clearly understood.
  3. They always think and say, “We” instead of “I.”
  4. They run effective meetings. 

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