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Selfish altruism is a win/win situation.

It usually applies in these categories:

• Transactions: buying cars, for example (you get your car, the dealer gets a bonus); doesn’t imply emotional bonds
• Family: protecting people that share our genes
• Statu...

It happens when helping you directly or indirectly helps me. And our behavior is largely dictated by it.

Start understanding the motives of people and appeal to them as if they were selfish. Don’t expect people to offer aid outside of selfish altruism, it isn’t impossible,...

When you’re able to manage and reduce your negative emotions, you’re less likely to get overwhelmed. 

If someone is upsetting you, don’t jump to conclusions. Instead, allow yourself to look at the situation in a variety of ways. Try to look at things objectively so you don’t get riled up as...