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How to get great responses

In order to have more meaningful conversations, ask questions that start with “who,” “what,” “where,” “when,” “how,” or “why”. 
Good: “What would you do?”
Bad: "Do you think I  should do X?"

Words like “would,” “should,” “is,” “are,” and “do you think,” must be avoided as they can decrease how people respond to you.

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