deepstash

Beta

You're Not Stuck That Way - Nat Eliason

Negative Motivation

We can start to feel helpless when we see people fail in a certain plan, and this could start acting as a negative motivation in our minds.

127 SAVES


This is a professional note extracted from an online article.

Read more efficiently

Save what inspires you

Remember anything

IDEA EXTRACTED FROM:

You're Not Stuck That Way - Nat Eliason

You're Not Stuck That Way - Nat Eliason

https://www.nateliason.com/blog/youre-not-stuck-that-way

nateliason.com

6

Key Ideas

Past Deciding The Future

We let our knowledge and experiences of the past project into our future, by making concrete predictions that this or that cannot happen due to what happened in the past.

But life is constantly changing, flowing like a river, and does not follow past patterns.

Learned Helplessness

This is a mental state where, as a result of a certain bad experience, we believe that we can’t do anything about a certain problem.

Negative Motivation

We can start to feel helpless when we see people fail in a certain plan, and this could start acting as a negative motivation in our minds.

Reaffirming Negative Beliefs

When you reaffirm your own belief that you can’t change certain things, you’re putting that belief inside the people around you. And you're especially impacting your loved ones.

Move Towards A Growth Mindset

Move out of the fixed mindset, where you are stuck in inaction, towards a growth mindset.

In a growth mindset, you see obstacles as steps to success and everything seems to have a solution.

Positive Action

If you choose to change your life, even if you don’t know how to, you will figure it out. A solution-based and action-oriented approach will change the situation to your favor.

EXPLORE MORE AROUND THESE TOPICS:

SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:

You Always Have a Choice

You have no control over things like the place you were born, your biological sex, the situation of your family or your skin color. These things will obviously impact your life in major ways.

Chuck Close
Chuck Close

"Inspiration is for amateurs. The rest of us just show up and get to work. Every great idea I’ve ever had grew out of work itself.”

Adopt a Bias Towards Action

Most people's approach to work motivation goes like this: they wait to be inspired, then they get to work.

But successful people don’t sit around and wait for inspiration. They just show up and get to work.

3 more ideas

The Psychology Of Behavior

In trying to change a behavior, reason will take you only so far, incentives must be taken into account as well. 

In psychology, operant conditioning is a type of learning in whi...

Continuous Versus Intermittent Reinforcement

Studies on reinforcement revealed that the best way for us to learn complex behaviors is via continuous reinforcement, in which the desired behavior is rewarded every time it’s performed. Consistency and timing are the keys.

Nonetheless, some argue that intermittent reinforcement is the most efficient way to maintain an already learnt behavior. It consists of giving reinforcement only some of the times that the desired behavior occurs.

The Benefits Of Intermittent Reinforcement
  • Rewarding the behavior immediately may take time away from the behavior’s continuation.
  • It’s cheaper not to reward every instance of a desired behavior.
  • By making the rewards unpredictable, you trigger excitement and thus get an increase in response without increasing the amount of reinforcement.
  • Since the person is already adapted to not always being rewarded, they take longer to stopping the behavior when reinforcement is removed.

3 more ideas

Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a personality trait, which can be an endless pursuit of high standards in every area of our lives, but can also be a 'disorder' like condition or a phobia, akin to '

Constant Mental Punishment

The trait of perfectionism constantly makes a person judge, compare and criticize suboptimal decisions or mistakes in any aspect of the daily routine.

A person starts having mental difficulties, striving to do everything the perfect way, but falling short eventually.

The Voice In The Head

Perfectionism is a voice in our head, constantly fed by the media and society's ideals, coaxing us into doing things in the best way, to get the desired results. 

It is useful in its purpose but in extremities can have negative effects on the body and mind.