CARL R. ROGERS

A general definition is the attitude of complete acceptance and love, whether for yourself or for someone else.

When you have UPR for someone, nothing they can do could give you a reason to stop seeing them as inherently human and inherently lovable.

You can repeat these sayings as a twist on the usual self-focus of mantras or affirmations:

• “My child’s worth is non-negotiable and does not need to be earned.”
• “I approve of my child without condition, although I may not approve of all the choices my child mak...

Guidance for teachers and parents on how to implement UPR and encourage the development of a child’s self-worth and self-esteem.

• Giving the child honest recognition for their success and achievement.
• Offering specific (as opposed to overly general) praise for t...

One of the best representations of UPR in therapy sessions is a scenario in which the client shares thoughts, feelings, or behaviors with the therapist that are considered morally wrong or simply unacceptable.

In this case, the therapist can display uncondi...

For another example, therapists have the opportunity to display UPR when a client shares a habit or behavior with the therapist that is self-detrimental or self-harmful, such as abusing drugs or alcohol, cutting, or binge-eating.

Instead of chiding the client ...

We all have two instinctual urges and desires, based on innate human needs and instincts, that make UPR an effective tool:

• The drive towards socially constructive behavior, meaning interacting effectively and positively with others.
• The need for