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A general definition is the attitude of complete acceptance and love, whether for yourself or for someone else.
When you have UPR for someone, nothing they can do could give you a reason to stop seeing them as inherently human and inherently lovable.
It does not mean that you accept each and every action taken by the person, but that you accept who they are at a level much deeper than surface behavior (Rogers, 1951).
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āThe greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.ā
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We all have two instinctual urges and desires, based on innate human needs and instincts, that make UPR an effective tool:
When the clients need forĀ self-determinationĀ feels respected, and the therapist adopts the attitude that the client is doing the best they can, the client is more likely to allow their urge towards socially constructive behavior to drive their decisions and actions.
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āPeople are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I donāt find myself saying, āSoften the orange a bit on the right hand corner.ā I donāt try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.ā
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āWhen the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for.
The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stanceā¦ provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another.ā
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āWhen a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying,
āThank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what itās like to be me."
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One of the best representations of UPR in therapy sessions is a scenario in which the client shares thoughts, feelings, or behaviors with the therapist that are considered morally wrong or simply unacceptable.
In this case, the therapist can display unconditional acceptance by asking the client about their feelings and what they believe drove the thought or behavior rather than focusing on how the clientās actions would hurt someone else or on the illegality or immorality of the action.
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For another example, therapists have the opportunity to display UPR when a client shares a habit or behavior with the therapist that is self-detrimental or self-harmful, such as abusing drugs or alcohol, cutting, or binge-eating.
Instead of chiding the client for this behavior or ignoring its potential to harm, the therapist might help the client realize that the behavior is harmful while simultaneously assuring the client that they are worthy of love and self-care and that they deserve to have a healthy andĀ happy life.
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āI donāt want you to save me. I want you to stand by my side as I save myself.ā
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You can repeat these sayings as a twist on the usual self-focus of mantras orĀ affirmations:
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āYou donāt need someone to complete you. You only need someone to accept you completely.ā
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Guidance for teachers and parents on how to implement UPR and encourage the development of a childās self-worth and self-esteem.
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āIn my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, cure, or change this person? Now I would rephrase the question in this way: How can I provide a relationship which this person may use for his own personal growth?ā
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