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The Super-Secret Enemy
- This is the voice that settles for mediocrity, and which sees life as a sad collection of misfortunes, with a few laughs if you’re lucky.
- The source of this self-loathing is, in some ways, the Secret Enemy. The more preoccupied we are with ourselves, the more we obsess over private happiness.
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Enemy 1: The Outer Enemy
- These are the "people, institutions, and situations that mean to harm us"
- They are the partner who cheated on you, the boss who gave you a warning, or the rain that soaked you to the skin.
- When dealing with all manifestations of the Outer Enemy, the advice is an old one:
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All You Need Is Love
Love is the single panacea for all four enemies: it wants what is best for others, and so defuses the Outer Enemy, love is what forgives and accepts and serves as the antithesis of the Inner Enemy: anger, hatred, and fear, love sees others not in terms of what they can do for you but from their p...
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The Premise
There are Four Enemies that are obstacles to a happy, fulfilled life. One is visible.
The other three concern our feelings and our tendency to self-obsess. The answer to all is found in love.
Love is a hugely powerful tool, but it's more complicated...
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Enemy 3: The Secret Enemy
- Our inner voice defines how we orient ourselves to the world.
- Those who are self-centered experience a "subjective fluctuating happiness," while those who are more selfless experience "authentic-durable happiness," which means a deep "contentment and plenitude or inner peace."
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Enemy 2: The Inner Enemy
- Anger, hatred, and fear are those emotions that poison our soul.
- There are three forms of patience: tolerant, insightful, and forgiving.
- Patience is recognizing the capacity that we all have to just grin and bear it, and appreciating how resilient you are.
- Forgiving p...
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The Happiness Consumerism
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