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The Premise

The Premise

There are Four Enemies that are obstacles to a happy, fulfilled life. One is visible.

The other three concern our feelings and our tendency to self-obsess. The answer to all is found in love.

Love is a hugely powerful tool, but it's more complicated than we might suppose.

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Enemy 1: The Outer Enemy

Enemy 1: The Outer Enemy

  • These are the "people, institutions, and situations that mean to harm us"
  • They are the partner who cheated on you, the boss who gave you a warning, or the rain that soaked you to the skin.
  • When dealing with all manifestations of the Outer Enemy, the advice is an old one: love them, and meet hate with love, and enmity with kindness.

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Enemy 2: The Inner Enemy

Enemy 2: The Inner Enemy

  • Anger, hatred, and fear are those emotions that poison our soul.
  • There are three forms of patience: tolerant, insightful, and forgiving.
  • Patience is recognizing the capacity that we all have to just grin and bear it, and appreciating how resilient you are.
  • Forgiving patience is to forgive anyone who harms us, no matter in what way.

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Enemy 3: The Secret Enemy

Enemy 3: The Secret Enemy

  • Our inner voice defines how we orient ourselves to the world.
  • Those who are self-centered experience a "subjective fluctuating happiness," while those who are more selfless experience "authentic-durable happiness," which means a deep "contentment and plenitude or inner peace."

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The Super-Secret Enemy

The Super-Secret Enemy

  • This is the voice that settles for mediocrity, and which sees life as a sad collection of misfortunes, with a few laughs if you’re lucky.
  • The source of this self-loathing is, in some ways, the Secret Enemy. The more preoccupied we are with ourselves, the more we obsess over private happiness.

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All You Need Is Love

All You Need Is Love

Love is the single panacea for all four enemies: it wants what is best for others, and so defuses the Outer Enemy, love is what forgives and accepts and serves as the antithesis of the Inner Enemy: anger, hatred, and fear, love sees others not in terms of what they can do for you but from their point of view, and helps and supports others, which undoes the Super-Secret Enemy

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Defeating Hate with Love.

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