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Speak to Your Reality, Not Theirs

Speak to Your Reality, Not Theirs

When sharing your dilemma, keep the focus of your words on you and how you feel by using "I" statements.

Start by expressing how it made you feel when your friend did what they did. Feelings are information, not fact.

This also helps you understand that there is more than one reality, and going towards factual reality is a two-way process involving both.

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We are a group, not a team - something I never want to say about my colleagues.

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