When sharing your dilemma, keep the focus of your words on you and how you feel by using "I" statements.
Start by expressing how it made you feel when your friend did what they did. Feelings are information, not fact.
This also helps you understand that there is more than one reality, and going towards factual reality is a two-way process involving both.
38
309 reads
CURATED FROM
IDEAS CURATED BY
Handling Conflict in a friendship
โ
The idea is part of this collection:
Learn more about communication with this collection
How to challenge assumptions
How to generate new ideas
How to break out of traditional thinking patterns
Related collections
Similar ideas to Speak to Your Reality, Not Theirs
Thoughts impact emotions and behaviors. If a resolution is worded in a way that is negative or restricting, it isn't going to help you to feel good or motivated to achieve it. Studies show that expressing a desire to have more self-control could actually have the opposite effect on behavior.
...3. Take an interest in the details of your friendโs life by being a good listener.ย Donโt watch television or text while your friend is sharing something with you. Most times people need more than good advice, they need someone to listen to them as they talk through their feelings...
Take time for dai...
Read & Learn
20x Faster
without
deepstash
with
deepstash
with
deepstash
Personalized microlearning
โ
100+ Learning Journeys
โ
Access to 200,000+ ideas
โ
Access to the mobile app
โ
Unlimited idea saving
โ
โ
Unlimited history
โ
โ
Unlimited listening to ideas
โ
โ
Downloading & offline access
โ
โ
Supercharge your mind with one idea per day
Enter your email and spend 1 minute every day to learn something new.
I agree to receive email updates