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The Inner Game: Why Trying Too Hard Can Be Counterproductive

Self 1 and Self 2

Self 1 and Self 2

When we are learning something new, we often internally talk to ourselves. Self 1 is the conscious self. Self 2 the subconscious. The two are always in dialogue.

If both selves can communicate in harmony, everything goes well.
But more often,  Self 1 gets judgmental and critical, trying to instruct Self 2. The trick is to calm Self 1 and let Self 2 follow that natural learning process.

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