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Listen To Your Strongest Triggers
Comparison can teach you what you value when you see yourself envying someone doing something you want, even if you haven’t consciously allowed yourself to want it.
Self-awareness can help you turn your feelings into something useful, so the next time envy rears its head, ask yourself:
- What do they have that makes me feel less than?
- What void do I believe having it would fill?
- Do I really want what they have?
- If yes, how much, and is it worth taking action to try to get it for myself?
The more specific your answers, the better you’ll be able to redirect your emotion into actions and strategies.
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Comparing Up With Comparing Down
Yes, comparing yourself with others is unavoidable, but by applying some of this advice, you can learn to use it to your advantage. Remember that you only see the tip of the iceberg, especially on social media – someone whose life seems perfect on Instagram may be dealing with struggles that you’...
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5 Ways To Turn Unchecked Comparison Into Action
Here’s how to take your envy, decode it and turn it into positive action:
- Listen to your strongest triggers
- Make sure your envy doesn’t become malicious
- Pick a broader baseline
- Compare the nitty-gritty
- Compare present you against past you
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Compare The Nitty-Gritty
Thinking through a day-in-the-life can help you make better comparisons, for example by asking yourself:
- What would a day-in-the-life look like?
- What specific pieces of that life do I want?
- What specific pieces of that life do I not want?
- What e...
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Compare Present You Against Past You
You may not always be exactly where you want to be, but chances are you’re not where you used to be, either. Pausing to take stock of your accomplishments – and the skills you’ve developed as a result – can help you feel proud of your progress and untangle yourself from malicious envy.
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Shift From Malicious To Benign Envy
To shift your thinking from malicious to benign envy, try these phrases:
• “I’m inspired by _____. Maybe I can learn from them, or ask them to be my mentor.”
• “I haven’t done what they’ve done . . . yet.”
• “Every person is on their own journey. I’m grateful for mine.”
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Unchecked Comparison Makes You Miserable
Left unchecked, comparison can make you miserable. Seeing people be better at something than you are can feel like a vicious uprooting. But with the right tools, you can use your envy to uncover what you value.
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