Barriers to reaching out

Barriers to reaching out

Even in times of isolation, you can do more good than you may think by reaching out to others. And before that, you have to get over the impulse to underestimate how positively others will respond to your action.

We fear how the other person will respond. We think, Will this be awkward? Will they want to talk to me? But these concerns are exaggerated and they build a misplaced psychological barrier to reaching out to others.





Technology helps us to still be very close to others socially, as long as we use it to shrink our distance from others.

Engage in more deep and intimate conversation, or connect through a more intimate medium that uses your voice rather than text.

Underestimating how others will respond to us reaching out does not end with more meaningful conversations; it extends to almost any action we perform to reach out and connect positively with others: expressing gratitude to another person, writing compliments, performing random acts of kindness, etc.

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People whose conversations with others are full of awkward silences might have neural patterns that are out of sync.

There might be a way to increase your chances of clicking. Maybe clicking can be triggered by consciously matching someone's posture, vocal rhythm, facial expressions, and even eyeblinks.



At the very least, you’re in the same place and experiencing the same weather. But don’t be afraid to dig deeper and find more interesting commonalities:

  • maybe you’re from the same place,
  • maybe you have a mutual friend,
  • maybe you have a shared hobby, or
  • maybe you work in similar roles.
  • Talking on the phone feels like a better, more satisfying connection, as much as it has been awkward for many, who were used to passive or async (text and email) based communication.
  • Giving compliments to each other over a phone call has a therapeutic effect that makes both feel better.

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