Orientation is a basic step but is overlooked by many. We have to orient ourselves and recognize any barriers that might be an interference in the OODA loop.

Orientation takes an objective, unbiased look at the world, free from shortcuts and mental models that interfere with our thinking. ...

When we are insulted our ego is attacked. This is a consequence of the story we tell ourselves, about ourselves and how the world should be. 

When something conflicts our story, it could lead to feeling offended. We should ask ourselves then: 

• "Why are we getting offended?", ...

Remember certain ‘destructive’ traits that your former partners had and try to make a conscious effort to choose a different type.

We should not only learn from the bad choices that we make but learn from the mistakes of others to avoid making them ourselves. In that way, w...