The Inclination to Fix Things
Fixers find it difficult to accept that people are allowed to be upset. They try to keep making things "all right". It is a conversation killer because sometimes people just need to express their sadness, grief, or other negative emotions.
Fixers might be this way because of their family origin where emotional expression was unacceptable. They deny the feelings that people need to feel and tend to withhold extravagant affection.
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