Sometimes, specific goals can limit your learning opportunities.
Keep a bit of space in your life for discovery, for doing things just for the sake of it.

Letting go of goals

“Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”

We need to give control to get control.
This means giving people (the people you love, your employees, even yourself) the flexibility to experience with the rules. Instead of a rigid framework, define one with key principles.

Letting go of the illusion of control

Learning to let go of things is about reflecting on the real value of your belongings and letting go of the unnecessary ones.
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<li>Start the process of getting rid of stuff progressively: begin with the easy ones - items you don’t even remember what they are or what they’re supposed to be used for. </li>
<li>Slowly move up towards more sentimental items. Ask yourself: “Why do I care about this item?”</li>
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Letting go of things

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<li>Because they have sentimental value. This value can come from past experiences or future expectations.</li>
<li>Because we are scared to be wasteful. Maybe we think that an object could be needed again in the future, or we feel guilty about the money we spent in the first place.</li>
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Why it's hard to let go of physical things

Learning to let go of people is not always a negative experience. You can use it an opportunity for personal growth.
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<li>Let yourself feel all the range of emotions the relationship brings about.</li>
<li>Take time to reflect: What did you learn from this relationship?</li>
<li>Forgive and be grateful for the lessons you learned about the world and yourself, and keep the positive moments as reminders of a relationship that helped you grow.</li>
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Letting go of relationships

Exercising emotional agility is one of the most useful ways to let go of past events that are stopping you from moving on. It consists of:
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<li>Connection. Talking it out with someone you feel safe around. Share your experience and your feelings. </li>
<li>Contribution. Help others who have gone through a similar experience. </li>
<li>Compassion. Be kind to yourself. Make sure you are making progress, but don’t rush it. It’s not a race.</li>
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Emotional agility

Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.

Learning to let go is much harder than holding on. Why do we cling onto past sorrows, bad relationships, old things, meaningless goals?

DEBORAH REBER

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