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How to handle conflicts
How to identify and regulate emotions
How to develop self-awareness
Avoiding painful feelings
Saying "I'm fine" is a form of avoidance. You may say you are fine to protect yourself from painful feelings.
Generally, codependents are uncomfortable with emotions and try to suppress them. After years of suppressing their feelings, they may be unaware of them. They say I'm fine because they don't recognise how they feel.
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Avoiding conflicts
We also say I'm fine to avoid strife. We don't share our thoughts because someone might get angry with us.
We may also desire to be even-tempered. We don't want to cause conflict because it might drive people away. We may think that people won't like us if we have complicated feel...
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Overcoming avoidance and denial
If you are used to denying your feelings and problems, it can be difficult to look at them. However, if we want to have better relationships, we have to acknowledge that we're not okay and are possibly hurt, afraid, or angry.
To move out of denial, start with acknowledging your fe...
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Avoiding our problems
Pretending we don't have any issues can be a form of denial. We want everyone to think we're doing great because we're afraid of the embarrassment and judgment that might come if people knew we're struggling. We also ignore our problems because they're overwhelming, and we don't ...
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Stigmatizing "bad" feelings
By stigmatizing uncomfortable feelings, we tend to eliminate the visibility of these emotions in society and people who feel sad or depressed believe they are the only ones who feel this way because they don’t see examples of others living with the same emotions around them.
Trying to control your emotions
People with low emotional intelligence think they have to solve difficult emotions. They try to get rid of any painful feelings.
Emotionally intelligent people see emotions as messengers. They validate them even if they don't like the content of the message.
Name your feelings
Emotions like overwhelm, anger, and frustration may indicate that others are intruding on your personal time or space.
Instead of pushing the feelings away, try understanding them. It will allow you to set the right boundaries.
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