Avoiding painful feelings
Saying "I'm fine" is a form of avoidance. You may say you are fine to protect yourself from painful feelings.
Generally, codependents are uncomfortable with emotions and try to suppress them. After years of suppressing their feelings, they may be unaware of them. They say I'm fine because they don't recognise how they feel.
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