Rule 79: Stop Blaming Others

Rather than thinking about what the other person could have done better, It's better for us to think about how we could have done better to make the best of every situation. Let's try to think about how we could have done better to bring out the best in other people and about what we could improv...

Jocko Willinck’s idea of Extreme Ownership says in every situation, rather than choose to be a victim and blame others for your suffering, you decide to take responsibility for whatever happens to you.

Externalizing the cause of the problems that befall you can only make you resentful, angry, and pitiful. Constantly behaving in this manner will ultimately make you a shell of yourself. Beware of what you consistently practice, for you become what you repeatedly do.

You are in control of your emotions and thoughts. No matter how big the storms may come, you will be a solid, foundational rock that will never budge. Whatever may happen in the external world, your inner world will remain untouched and will remain strong.

What's the benefit of adopt this mindset? It's empowering you. It tells you that you alone are responsible for your happiness, and you can always do something about it.

Blaming others takes an enormous amount of mental energy. It’s a “drag-me-down” mind set that creates stress and disea...

Naturally we have idea of justice. So, when we found injustice, we instinctively react emotionally. When we feel betrayed or wronged, we will view ourselves as victims and expect the other party to make things right again.

It's difficult for us to consciously move against this natural insti...