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When things go wrong in our lives, we have two ways of looking at the situation: look around to see who we can blame, or we can look within and see if we had a part to play in bringing about the misfortune.
By choosing the former, we relinquish responsibility and allow ourselves to become victims. Because, by choose this, we’re able to pat ourselves on the back and also gain support and sympathy from others for being subjected to undue, undeserving suffering.
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Rather than thinking about what the other person could have done better, It's better for us to think about how we could have done better to make the best of every situation. Let's try to think about how we could have done better to bring out the best in other people and about what we could improv...
Jocko Willinck’s idea of Extreme Ownership says in every situation, rather than choose to be a victim and blame others for your suffering, you decide to take responsibility for whatever happens to you.
You are in control of your emotions and thoughts. No matter how big the storms may come, you will be a solid, foundational rock that will never budge. Whatever may happen in the external world, your inner world will remain untouched and will remain strong.
What's the benefit of adopt this mindset? It's empowering you. It tells you that you alone are responsible for your happiness, and you can always do something about it.
Blaming others takes an enormous amount of mental energy. It’s a “drag-me-down” mind set that creates stress and disea...
Naturally we have idea of justice. So, when we found injustice, we instinctively react emotionally. When we feel betrayed or wronged, we will view ourselves as victims and expect the other party to make things right again.
It's difficult for us to consciously move against this natural insti...
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Blame is a defense mechanism. What we’re defending ourselves from is our own responsibility for dealing with the unpleasant experience we’ve been given.
The benefit in blame is that it allows us to avoid feeling like we’re failing ourselves, that we lack the strength and maturity to ...
Whenever something doesn't go as we planned it, we often look for something or someone to put the blame. It's our primal instinct and it's a habit that can make us difficult to deal with.
There are many reasons as to why we "play" the blame game. It could either be because...
It is not outside forces that make us feel something, it is what we tell ourselves that create our feelings.
Many of us want to place blame and responsibility on external objects because it’s easy to do, but the truth remains that all conflicts start internally, in our minds.
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