Look beyond your own triggers

If you're triggered by something, in others or in yourself, try learning a different association.

If you can see your triggers as something that should make you curious instead of cautious, you have a very good chance of outsmarting any insecurity.

Cultivate the habit of looking beyond and beneath your most obvious emotions and noticing smaller, quieter ones.

Allow yourself to feel the sadness, regret, and pity for what happened. You may be able to see your offender and offense in a new light and help you to think and act differ...

Opening your mind to the possibility that there could be more answers than just yes or no means you are able to see past the obvious right or wrong answers that have been used in the past—and see a third, fourth, fifth option.

You don’t know yet if it will work. But in this...