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Samantha Q.

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Use positive language

If you speak in negatives, you will hurt the person and shut them down. if you can bring positivity to what you are trying to say, it's far more likely that you'll be heard, and that the disagreement can be resolved more quickly and easily.

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7 Simple Ways to Deal With a Disagreement Effectively

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Leadership

How to Turn Disagreement Into a Team Strength - Ambition & Balance

If you've ever worked closely with someone else in a work environment (so pretty much everyone), you've had a disagreement. Maybe you didn't agree with the current approach for tackling a project, or you weren't quite sold on the marketing of a new product.

doist.com

The art of disagreement

Mastering the art of considerate disagreement means expressing your beliefs without shutting down the discussion or angering the other side.

For this to happen, you have to listen mor...

Ed Catmull

“You are not your idea, and if you identify too closely with your ideas, you will take offense when they are challenged.”

Ray Dalio

e seen people who agree on the major issues waste hours arguing over details. It’s more important to do the big things well than the small perfec

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Isabel G.

@isabelg284

8 Ways to Flip Your Fear of Conflict

In the past, 99U has tackled arguments by digging into how to safely bring sparring into shoptalk and mediation into meetings. But, here's the thing: it's 2019. Disagreement is our reality. We have increasingly divisive elections, impending family Thanksgiving dinner, and let's not forget that we still can't agree on what we want the future of work to look like.

99u.adobe.com

Disagreement Is The New Reality

The ability to have productive disagreements is a superpower.

But disagreement or an argument usually has toxicity associated with it, with judgment, self-protection and a sense of con...

Aligning the Argument

In a disagreement, often certain crucial information isn't available or isn't clearly understood by either person. We need to ask ourselves if:

The argument is about something that can be verified.
If it matters to you (meaningful).
If it is useful.

Then we need to make sure that the other person aligns and comes on the same page.

Anxiety Spikes

Anxiety spikes happen when something triggers us during an argument, usually when what that we care about feels threatened.

We need to be aware of these spikes to guide us into the emotional aspect of the argument, rather than only focusing on information.

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Harper A.

@harzaa11

7 Strategies to Deal With Difficult Family Members

Difficult people are everywhere, like it or not. It's pretty certain that at some point in your life, you'll come across a challenging person and will have to find a way to deal with them. It would be easy to think, "Why bother?" if being around them causes you grief.

psychologytoday.com

Don’t try to fix the difficult person

Accept them exactly as they are.

Accept that they are unable to change, at least at this point in time. Unless you see real change — proof that this person is making an effort&nb...

Be present and direct

Try to avoid getting into a fight-or-flight response, which inevitably leads to becoming defensive.

Be direct and assertive when you express yourself.
Stay focused on how you respond.
Know when the discussion or argument has accelerated to the point of no return. If it gets to this point, stop the interaction, and leave the conversation.

Encourage difficult people to express themselves

Let them fully state their point of view about the issue/conflict/problem without interruption. What do they feel people misunderstand about them? What do they want or expect from others?

The idea is to remain as neutral as possible. Just listening may be enough to allow someone to feel like they have the opportunity to say what’s on their mind.

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