The most common mistake people make is <a href="https://www.inc.com/peter-economy/9-ways-amazing-leaders-demonstrate-real-authenticity-every-day.html">to confuse their self-worth with their accomplishments.</a>

Never confuse who you are with what you do

What you say to yourself matters more than what the entire world together says about you.

Master your inner dialogue

When the storms of life start tossing you around like a toy, you need an anchor--something you can cling to when all seems hopeless.

Learn to live in the moment

Find the handful of people who will support you no matter what, invest your time and energy in strengthening those relationships.

Fortify your village, then build a moat

The time to "hurricane proof" your life isn't when the shingles start to fly off the roof, but when the sky is still blue and sunny."Work on your self-image, inner dialogue, present-moment awareness, and key relationships now."

Be prepared, be prepared, be prepared

It's so easy to forget how you can maintain your mental health.  That's why I like these short bits of inspirational reminders.

Beating cancer made Yale Law grad Seun Adebiyi rethink his fast-paced life and become an entrepreneur.

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Want to Build Unbeatable Mental Toughness? Here Are 5 Surprisingly Effective Ways

Ed Batista, a Stanford Graduate School of Business lecturer, has worked with many executives in his career and the one problem that is most evident to him is that many executives and CEOs experience people problems.

People Problems

The hell of life is that everyone has their reasons

We often find ourselves assuming about the reasons why people behave the way they behave but we fail to ask "why do I find their behavior maddening or frustrating?"  We have to slow down and remind ourselves that everyone has their own reasons for their behavior and as leaders we must allow ourselves to empathize and learn if there is something we can do about it.

Mitigating Assumption in People's Behavior

Here are some questions you can use to explore about a person's behavior:<ul><li>What are their beliefs and assumptions? Can I allow that information to inform how I approach them?</li><li>Can I take a broader perspective on what might be driving them? What impulses or reasoning might be informing their behavior?</li><li>Am I creating a condition that they are finding the need to adapt to that I might find frustrating?</li><li>Is there something I can do to change how I'm showing up and influence the environment in which this other person is operating?</li></ul>

Exploring Empathy

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The Strategic Importance of Empathy

it's 4 pm I should study! 4 hours later you haven't started yet. you are hungry. you spend 30 minutes making the perfect yogurt with granola another 30 minutes later you are done eating and scrolling on TikTok. It's 9 pm. you decide to shower first. only 5 minutes, you promise yourself yet 35 minutes later you turn the shower off. you decide to do your skincare and paint your nails. another 30 minutes later. It's 10 pm now and you are tired. you decide to lay down for a bit. but you fall asleep and wake up in the morning. your test is in 1 hour. you're doomedClick the link to stop this!

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In this post I would be proposing simple ways to you may source for ideas to write about. Psst… They’re all around you. <ol><li>Watching the world go</li><li>Keeping an eye on the media</li><li>Drawing on your experience</li><li>Read Books</li><li>Use your imagination</li></ol>

5 Easy Ways To Find Things To Write About

Watch how people behave in everyday situations, jotting down ideas in your notebook as they occur to you. The next time you go to the supermarket, for example, observe the behavior of the other customers.Not only should you watch but you must also listen. Writers are terrible eavesdroppers and will shamelessly listen in on the most private conversations. You can pick up some wonderful snippets that will effortlessly turn themselves into ideas for all sorts of things.

1. Watching the world go.

Newspapers, television and radio are some of the richest sources of ideas out there. Keep your eyes and ears open for the unusual stories and quirky programs tucked away between the major items. Jot down All kinds of things that capture your imagination.You may decide to flesh out these ideas with your imagination, fact or ideas from other sources, before you know it ta-da!! You have a complete story.

2. Keeping an eye on the media.

You can also lean into your personal experiences for ideas to write about, this is usually a good way for you to strike a connection with your readers. Your relationships, both good and bad, from your earliest memories of childhood through your schooldays to adult friendships, romantic attachments or experiences at work; everything can form part of your stories.Also Instead of writing about what happened to you, you may decide to write “what you wished had happened instead”. You know how instead of falling down the stairs horribly, you were magically able to float in the air.

3. Drawing on your experience.

Writers are readers, this may sound cliché but it still holds true even today. Apart from being a source for ideas for your stories, you also get to see what your contemporaries are writing/wrote and analyze how they did it.

4. Read Books.

Stating this out almost feels unnecessary because for you to pull off any of the previous tips above you would at some point have to fill in gaps with your imagination, which ironically makes this probably the most important tip in this post.Using your imagination when writing is not something you have to be a genius to pull, to begin doing it, you just need to combine ideas from different sources, chop parts you don’t want and continue repeating this (merge & chop) process until you have something you want.

5. Use your imagination.

These ideas provide simple sources for writing ideas that can be used to come up with creative writing stories

Having made the decision to start a writing habit, you might find yourself on occasion staring down a black page asking yourself “what do I write?” I would usually respond with “anything that comes to your mind” and while that remains a valid and positive answer, I find having a basket of ideas you can…

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The more you learn, the more you realize you don't know shit, which means when you are in a junior grade maths class you seem to know everything but now when you are in a university maths class you seem to not know 200-300 things or more This is one of a great paradox I came across

Knowledge Circle

This is tell you that it is okay to not know everything, it is just a phase that you are expanding your knowledge circle 

Ever noticed that the harder you push for something, the harder it feels to achieve? Or the more available something is, the less you will want it? A paradox is something like this, something that is seemingly self-contradictory but after giving it a little consideration actually starts to make a lot of f*cking sense. That’s what makes paradoxes such mindfucks. And that’s what I love about them. Over my years working in this business, I’ve found that some of life’s real grains of wisdom emerge from paradoxes. So stick around, I’m sharing a bunch of them right here, right now. PARADOX #01: Friendships 1:02 PARADOX #02: Success 1:56 PARADOX #03: Fear 2:31 PARADOX #04: Personality 3:23 PARADOX #05: Connectivity 4:09 PARADOX #06: Happiness 5:11 PARADOX #07: Knowledge 6:13 PARADOX #08: Being Right 7:06 PARADOX #09: Imperfections 7:33 PARADOX #10: Choice 8:26 PARADOX #11: Relationships 9:19 PARADOX #12: Loving Yourself 10:30 PARADOX #13: Death 11:15 PARADOX #14: Uncertainty 11:50 PARADOX #15: Change 11:58 BONUS PARADOX: 12:18 Oh and there’s one more. The more you spend your time liking this video and subscribing to this channel, the less sleep you lose at night. Or something like that. Now, go watch it. And leave a comment. — The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck Official Summary: https://youtu.be/lz8sUiXAnbs Everything is Fucked: A Book About Hope Official Summary here: https://youtu.be/fEk5dhbNU70 — IDEAS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE Each month I write down ideas that could help you change your life. It’s a way to get through your month with a bang and fill yourself with ideas that could potentially change everything. Sign up to receive them for free here: https://mrk.mn/2Op39wk If you were into this video and you haven’t already subscribed to my channel, do that now and hit the little bell to get notifications for when I post something new. I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes Bestselling author of: Everything is Fucked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U I share other type of content to make you a less awful human in these places: https://www.facebook.com/Markmansonnet/ https://www.instagram.com/markmanson/ https://www.pinterest.com/iammarkmanson/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/markmanson/ https://twitter.com/IAmMarkManson Thanks for watching.

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Ever noticed that the harder you push for something, the harder it feels to achieve?

Or the more available something is, the less you will want it? 

A paradox is something like this, something that is seemingly self-contradictory but after giving it a little consideration actually starts to make a lot of f*cking sense. That’s what makes paradoxes such mindfucks. And that’s what I love about them.

Over my years working in this business, I’ve found that some of life’s real grains of wisdom emerge from paradoxes. So stick around, I’m sharing a bunch of them right here, right now.

INTRO: 00:00
PARADOX #01: Friendships 1:02
PARADOX #02: Success 1:56
PARADOX #03: Fear  2:31
PARADOX #04: Personality 3:23
PARADOX #05: Connectivity 4:09
PARADOX #06: Happiness 5:11
PARADOX #07: Knowledge 6:13
PARADOX #08: Being Right 7:06
PARADOX #09: Imperfections 7:33
PARADOX #10: Choice 8:26
PARADOX #11: Relationships 9:19
PARADOX #12: Loving Yourself 10:30
PARADOX #13: Death 11:15
PARADOX #14: Uncertainty 11:50
PARADOX #15: Change 11:58
BONUS PARADOX: 12:18

Oh and there’s one more. The more you spend your time liking this video and subscribing to this channel, the less sleep you lose at night. Or something like that. Now, go watch it. And leave a comment.

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15 Paradoxes That Will Change Your Life

What is a mind? Defining the concept is a surprisingly slippery task. The mind is the seat of consciousness, the essence of your being. Without a mind, you cannot be considered meaningfully alive. So what exactly, and where precisely, is it?Traditionally, scientists have tried to define the mind as the product of brain activity: The brain is the physical substance, and the mind is the conscious product of those firing neurons, according to the classic argument. But growing evidence shows that the mind goes far beyond the physical workings of your brain.

What, Exactly, Is The Mind, And Where, Precisely, Is It?

No doubt, the brain plays an incredibly important role. But our mind cannot be confined to what’s inside our skull, or even our body, according to a definition first put forward by Dan Siegel, a professor of psychiatry at UCLA School of Medicine and the author of the 2016 book, Mind: A Journey to the Heart of Being Human.

The Mind: A Definition

Siegel first came up with the definition more than two decades ago, at a meeting of 40 scientists across disciplines, including neuroscientists, physicists, sociologists, and anthropologists. The aim was to come to an understanding of the mind that would appeal to common ground and satisfy those wrestling with the question across these fields.After much discussion, they decided that a key component of the mind is: “the emergent self-organizing process, both embodied and relational, that regulates energy and information flow within and among us.”

An Interesting Definition With Meaningful Implications

The most immediately shocking element of this definition is that our mind extends beyond our physical selves. In other words, our mind is not simply our perception of experiences, but those experiences themselves. Siegel argues that it’s impossible to completely disentangle our subjective view of the world from our interactions.“I realized if someone asked me to define the shoreline but insisted, is it the water or the sand, I would have to say the shore is both sand and sea,” says Siegel. “You can’t limit our understanding of the coastline to insist it’s one or the other.”

Our Mind Extends Beyond Our Physical Selves 

“Maybe the mind is like the coastline—some inner and inter process. Mental life for an anthropologist or sociologist is profoundly social. Your thoughts, feelings, memories, attention, what you experience in this subjective world is part of mind.”

Our Mind Is Inner And Inter

The definition has since been supported by research across the sciences, but much of the original idea came from mathematics. Siegel realized the mind meets the mathematical definition of a complex system in that it’s open (can influence things outside itself), chaos capable (which simply means it’s roughly randomly distributed), and non-linear (which means a small input leads to large and difficult to predict result).

Our Mind Meets The Mathematical Definition Of A Complex System

In math, complex systems are self-organizing, and Siegel believes this idea is the foundation to mental health. Again borrowing from the mathematics, optimal self-organization is: flexible, adaptive, coherent, energized, and stable. This means that without optimal self-organization, you arrive at either chaos or rigidity—a notion that, Siegel says, fits the range of symptoms of mental health disorders.

… And As A Complex System It Is Self-Organizing

Finally, self-organization demands linking together differentiated ideas or, essentially, integration. And Siegel says integration—whether that’s within the brain or within society—is the foundation of a healthy mind.

Absence Of Self-Organization And Mental Health

Siegel says he wrote his book because he sees so much misery in society, and he believes this is partly shaped by how we perceive our own minds.“In our modern society we have this belief that mind is brain activity and this means the self, which comes from the mind, is separate and we don’t really belong. But we’re all part of each others’ lives. The mind is not just brain activity. When we realize it’s this relational process, there’s this huge shift in this sense of belonging.”

Mind And Self Are Not Separate

In other words, even perceiving our mind as simply a product of our brain, rather than relations, can make us feel more isolated. And to appreciate the benefits of interrelations, you simply have to open your mind.

Our Mind Is Relational

Exploring how the mind extends beyond the physical self.

"Your thoughts, feelings, memories, attention, what you experience in this subjective world is part of mind.”

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Scientists Say Our “Mind” Isn’t Confined To Our Brain, Or Even Our Body

When Mark Zuckerberg announced the rebranding of Facebook to Meta late last month in a “<a href="https://about.fb.com/news/2021/10/founders-letter/">founder’s letter</a>,” I was on a video call with my writing group, discussing the tactile joys of our craft — the benefits of writing by hand, our love of beautiful Rhodia writing pads, our favorite examples of manuscript pages (mine: David Foster Wallace’s, reeking of chew). Among the three of us, we owned five typewriters and no social media accounts. There we were in the metaverse, longing for the one thing it can’t provide: the experience of touch.

Rebranding Facebook to Meta

Through virtual and augmented reality (also Ray-Ban Stories smart glasses), Meta’s technology aims to change how we live, how we connect with friends and family. (Imagine teleporting hologram-you to concerts or Thanksgiving dinners.) Except for all its patter about bringing people together, Meta advances a fundamental human disconnection: It removes our bodies from the equation.

Change How We Live

Meta's Technology

I, for one, will not go gentle into the metaverse. Not because I’m anti-technology (I’m not) or unreasonably attached to the pleasures of gel ink pens and hard-bound books (I may be). It’s because after I’ve struggled with anorexia and bulimia for more than 20 years, the last thing I want is technology that further estranges me from my body. “If we lose touch with ourselves,” the philosopher Richard Kearney writes, “we lose touch with the world. No tactile connection, no resonance between self and other.”

I Will not go into the Metaverse

After I’ve struggled with anorexia and bulimia for more than 20 years, the last thing I want is technology that further estranges me from my body. 

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Opinion | We’re Longing for the One Thing the Metaverse Can’t Give Us

Here are the ways to improve Communication Skills:1. Motivate yourself to initiate the conversationTo improve Communication Skills in yourself as student; it is essential to tell yourself to start and take part in discussion. The majority of us probably shouldn't want to talk to anyone. This makes tough for you to show your feelings when you get stressed. So motivate yourself to do such activities which make your communication skill effective. In the classroom examine feelings about situations happening in the mind of students to talk with them.

How To Improve Communication Skills

While speaking with others, always remember that you should not use the bully or false words. Before saying any words, make sure that your words did not hurt anyone. Your sweet voice can win heart of anyone. Always talk passionately with smile on face. Don't show them that you are not confident. Build your strong personality so that everyone will like to talk with you.

2. Choose word wisely

Show students that you are concerned about what they feel and want to say by listening effectively. Pay attention to hear your friends, not only exclusively to react but also to give a response. Paying attention to others is one of the essential ways of working on effective communication skills. Actively listened to others and pleased yourself to ask more questions and engaged in conversation.

3. Active listening

The most important thing which we forget that is our body language. The hands in our pocket, legs shrinking shows that you are not confident. Straight your hand downside and make eye-to-eye contact to make the communication effective. Learn the body gestures and postures to maintain the personality. While going for interviews or presentations, dress yourself in such a formal way. Sit comfortably and talk nicely with them to maintain personality.If you like to read blog, you can read in <a href="https://bioeducation1.blogspot.com/">bioeducation1.blogspot.com</a>

4. Body Language

Here we have gone the some ways to improve your communication skills to make it more effective.

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Have you ever come across someone who is incredibly kind and morally upright – and yet also deeply insufferable? They might try to do anything they can to help you or engage in a host of important, useful activities benefiting friends and the wider community. Yet they seem a little bit too pleased with their good deeds and, without any good reason to think so, you suspect that there’s something calculated about their altruism.

 Too Good To Be True

Finding yourself taking such an uncharitable attitude towards people who are only trying to make the world a better place might feel uncomfortable. Yet this scepticism is a known behaviour, described by psychologists as “do-gooder derogation”. And while the phenomenon may seem to be wholly irrational, there are some compelling evolutionary reasons for being wary of unreciprocated altruism.

The “Do-Gooder” Derogation

One of <a href="https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.1153808">the earliest and most systematic examinations of do-gooder derogation </a>comes from a global study by Simon Gächter, a professor of psychology at the University of Nottingham in the UK. https://www.science.org/doi/10.1126/science.1153808

Antisocial Punishment Across Societies: A Study

Like many studies into altruism, Gächter’s experiment took the form of a “public goods game”. The participants were divided into groups of four, and each person was given tokens representing a small sum of money. Participants were then given the possibility of contributing some of that income to a communal pool in each round of a game. Once everyone had placed their investment, each person would receive 40% of the total sum invested by the group.

The Experiment: A Public Goods Game

If the participants play fairly, each round should provide a reasonable return on investment for each person. Those who are very stingy, however, can game the system by paying very little themselves and reaping the rewards of others’ investments. It’s easy to see how resentments could build. After 10 rounds, the researchers therefore gave the participants the option of penalising other players by deducting some of the income they received.

Selfishness, Resentment And Penalization 

Given classic economic theory, you might expect the stingy free-riders to receive those punishments – and that was indeed the case. Amazingly, however, the most altruistic participants were also targeted – even though they were contributing more than their fair share to the others’ riches.Somehow, selfishness and selflessness were considered to be morally equivalent.

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

To understand the origins of this seemingly irrational behaviour, we need to consider how human altruism emerged in the first place.According to evolutionary psychology, hardwired human behaviours should have evolved to improve our survival and our ability to pass on our genes to another generation. In the case of altruism, generous acts could help us to foster good relationships within the group which, over time, help to build social capital and status.

How Human Altruism Emerged - Reciprocity And Reputation

Importantly, however, reputation is “positional” – if one person rises, the others fall. This can create a strong sense of competition, which means that we’re always alert to the possibility that other people are getting ahead of us, even if they are achieving their status through altruism. We’ll be especially resentful if we think that the other person was only looking for those reputational benefits, rather than acting out of a genuine interest in others, since it may suggest a cunning and manipulative personality more generally.

Reputation Is “Positional”

All this means that altruistic behaviour can make us walk a metaphorical tightrope. We need to balance our generosity perfectly, so that we are seen as cooperative and good, without arousing the suspicion that we are acting solely for the status.

The Altruist Walks A Metaphorical Tightrope

Nichola Raihani, is a professor in evolution and behaviour at University College London and author of The Social Instinct. Her research of online fundraising pages has found evidence that some people are aware of the potential for a hostile reaction to their generosity. Analysing posts on BMyCharity, she found <a href="https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/full/10.1098/rsbl.2013.0884">it’s often the highest (as well as the lowest) givers who choose to remain anonymous </a>. They seem to know a showy act could result in feelings of resentment from the other people observing the page, and so they’d rather hide it.

… And He Seems To Know It

Ryan Carlson, a graduate student at Yale University, agrees that altruistic behaviours are often appraised from multiple angles besides the generosity of the act itself. “We don’t just value altruism – we value integrity and honesty, which are other signals of our moral character,” he says. An apparent act of generosity that seems to be driven by self-interest could therefore lead us to score rather badly on those other qualities.

Ulterior Motives

As Raihani points out, we are constantly trying to second-guess the reasons for others’ actions – and we punish people harshly when we suspect that their motives are impure. Those instinctive suspicions may or may not be true, of course. We often base our judgements on intuition rather than hard facts.

The Suspicion Is Constant And The Punishment Harsh

These findings are worth remembering whenever we find ourselves questioning the behaviours of the people around us. If there’s no good evidence to suggest that their acts of generosity are self-serving, we may choose to give them the benefit of the doubt, knowing that our uncharitable intuitions may be fuelled by our own fears of losing status.

Life Rule: Don’t Rush To Condemn The Good Deeds Of Others

The research might also help us to avoid accidental faux pas when we act altruistically ourselves. At the very least, the research shows that you should avoid noisily broadcasting your good deeds. “And if people bring them up, you should downplay them,” says Raihani. Even if you think that you are simply sharing a bit of uplifting news about a cause that you care about, you should err on the side of modesty.

Life Rule: Don’t Broadcast Your Own Good Deeds 

And if you do happen to gain from an altruistic act, it’s best to be upfront about the fact. Say, for example, that a perfectly innocent act of kindness in the office happened to get the attention of a manager, who then put you forward for promotion. You may be seen more favourably if you acknowledge that outcome, rather than allowing others to ruminate on the idea that you had somehow planned it in advance.If you happen to reap some benefits from an act of kindness, it makes sense to be transparent. Otherwise, it may look as if you were deliberately managing your reputation to gain status.

… But Do Broadcast Any Gains Of Yours From Them

Ultimately, the only fool-proof way to avoid do-gooder derogation may be to do your best deeds in complete secret. And if others happen to discover the truth, despite your attempts to hide it – well, the good reputation that follows is simply a bonus.Oscar Wilde may have put it best more than a century ago. “The nicest feeling in the world is to do a good deed anonymously – and have somebody find out.”

Secrecy Is The Best Policy

‘Do-gooders’ are often judged harshly. Why do we resent their acts of altruism or question their motives?

Why Overly Kind And Moral People Can Rub Us Up The Wrong Way

1. Inside the mind of every person that knows you is a uniquely different version of yourself2. Every hollow chocolate bunny is carrying a pocket of air from somewhere else in the world3. Water is really what a rainbow tastes like4. You can remember that you forgot something, but you can't remember what you forgot5. Some stranger somewhere still remembers you because you were kind to them when no one else was6. Graveyards are probably the least likely place to be haunted because, realistically, none of the people buried died there

7. If you eat something with a cheese filling,you become the thing with a cheese filling8. There is a chance you could have used the same utensil twice at a restaurant at different times9. Birds probably do more people watching than people do bird watching10. There are more numbers than there are things to count11. Every broken clock is telling us when it passed away12. Water is never truly yours it's just your turn to drink it13. The syllables in 'On your mark, get set, go' are a countdown14. If magic was real, it would just be a branch of science15. Finally: Everyone you meet has poo in them

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